So sick of crap men

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Name changed as don’t want to out myself as I’ve had a right good moan about this lately. I hate the daily mail - if you’re a journalist looking for fresh meat, fuck off.

I seem to have had a bad run of weird men combined with ones that seem nice then turn creepy.

First we had the guy who would not stop texting and going on and on about how pretty I was and asked me out. It took a day or so of Him constantly texting, but I told him he was too full on and I didn’t want to date him. It stopped for a bit then he kept finding excuses to message me. He’s stopped again as after being polite, then telling him to stop, I just completely ignored everything he sent. Annoying.

Then next guy seems nice enough (met this one online) and we go for a few coffees. Nice, quiet and makes clear he’s looking for a relationship. Great. Then he gets drunk and starts texting me asking me if I was inviting him over or just a tease. I don’t even know where it came from

Second online dating guy seems nice, all very civil chit chat and arranging to meet for coffee until he starts boasting about how much “stamina” he has and all he’s learned about sex. It’s not something I want to discuss with a guy I’ve never met.

Finally, lovely guy I know starts messaging me one evening and we have a chat about how we’ve not seen each other for a while. Fine. I fall asleep and wake up the next morning to 10 missed video calls and several offers of seeing him naked.

I’m just so hacked off with the way every conversation seems to turn at the moment. I’m not a prude, but I’m a relationship kind of girl and I’m pretty clear about that. Why can’t they read the social cues?

Is it me? Is it men? I’m just coming off dating sites and stopping looking as I’m just getting so frustrated with it. I don’t want to be alone forever, but I want to meet someone who isn’t a creep.

Dating sites seem to attract weirdo men. I suppose they think you're desperate. You're not desperate are you? Usually it's when we're not looking that we find what we want.

Nah, not desperate. I mean if I was I wouldn’t walk away from every single conversation that turn that way. I get that weirdos are on dating sites, but that doesn’t excuse the two who weren’t

I just think it’s almost disrespectful.

I feel your pain... 7 years single ... met a fair few total nob head's in my time.. resigned myself to being single forever

Yep. Same boat here. Either guys just completely messing me about or just want naked pics 😳
Fed up with it. Can never understand the ones who seem normal, have great conversation and then disappear.
And don't get me started on the married ones 😬

Sorry you're having such a hard time of it OP. I honestly think porn culture and smartphones have a lot to answer for and sometimes wish that we could turn back time.

I'm not saying it was perfect in the old days as it wasn't, but porn wasn't as hardcore and pervasive just a few years ago, and it's given people some weird ideas and expectations, and the technology to try and push to that stage quickly.

Aye mrinternet who I’ve been chatting to for 2 bloody minutes, here’s a photo of me naked, why wouldn’t that be a bad idea

You’re straying worryingly towards a Handmaid’s Tale type scenario - isn’t that how it all started

I think you’re right though, it’s depressing. I think what’s thrown me the most is the guy that I knew, I’m so disappointed in him.

OP, that's just it. The worst I could say about a guy I knew was thar he disappointed me. He was so nice. This was many moons ago but not something I've forgotten. The ones I was simply angry with I couldn't give a toss about and were soon forgotten.

You got to be careful with these guys. Some are in situations just messed up looking for sex to fix them.
It is getting worse as the minute they having issues they act up.
You get very few decent and if they single it's when are you going to meet. Constant I need to see you. It's all about sex.
Except some will sweet talk you better by throwing the lines which draw us in. Then the sex thing comes up.
The good morning texts go on until they get what they want.. then when your thinking he your guy he goes distant and your texting and it's I'm busy lol.
Not all guys are bad. You know though.
These guys are on thee sites are too much headache.

Had a funny one the other day... no profile pic... (always a red flag).. normal starting chat.. hello, how are you etc..
he says I like your pictures I say thank you.. why haven't you got one? He says "I'm huge".. immediately I thought he meant as in overweight so awkwardly reply "well none of us are super models"!!!!

Ping... picture of massive erect penis.. bloody weirdo!!

So many men in the age group I look for (age 55+) seem to have health issues/anxieties which they bore on about, and view a potential 'partner' as a live-in housekeeper cum carer!
Either that, or they are set in their ways, and won't vary their routines to accommodate dates/activities within the new relationship. Of course, no one should drop everything to be with a new person - but I had one guy who would only see me Mon - Fri evenings.He spent every weekend with his son....the son was 24

And yes, it was true. He sent me pix of his son and himself at sporting venues etc; ok, nice to spend time with adult DC - but EVERY weekend?

I seem to have had a bad run of weird men combined with ones that seem nice then turn creepy.

This is happening to me as well.

I don't have any answers regarding why this is happening.

I don't understand the assumption that women of a certain age are desperate and will accept any old nonsense. Where does this mindset come from?

Smeaton if a guy said to me about using kik the first thing I would think is that he's a creep and just in it for sex. Learned that lesson

Yep as soon as they mention kik I think married or dodgy. All those that use it are.
No idea where to meet nice normal men!

I don't match or accept messages from guys with no profile photo.

Never been asked to use kik either.

I'm late 20s - not really "a certain age" surely?!

Interestingly I was out with H the other night and bumped into a 40 something decent looking guy I know from work, who is divorced and a lovely dad, asked if he was still seeing xyz in general chit chat and he said ‘no, I just get bored after a few weeks’ . I think guys in particular get hooked on the buzz of OLD and it being like a sweetly shop, especially the ones who find it easy to attract intelligent nice women to be honest.

I had a guy who talked dirty on the phone after we met. Don't know why I went on a date with him.

Ughhhh I could have written this! Even the potential ones who I thought weren’t after sex turn sexual. I always make it clear I’m not just about sex I like commitment, recently made the mistake of being in a 5 month thing with a guy who then told me he wanted FWB but acted like he wanted a relationship! So I have my guard up but these guys just try and act like they aren’t that type of guy then minutes later talk turns to sex!

Two guys im talking to from OLD last night turned things sexual. I’ve been chatting to them both for weeks, one has been quite sexual over that time and I always shut him down and say I’m not that type of girl. He always wants photos etc. But last night he was drinking and just decided to tell me exactly what was on his mind, without me enticing him at all.

The other was trying to get me to meet him at midnight - I was out myself but have never met him so was like no! Then he said how if I had he would have taken me back to his - like I was a sure thing????!!!! 😡

Nobody wants to date any more or go out. 😔 Thing is I’m not huge on dating either, I am more of a home body and would love to just spend time chilling at home with someone, but I don’t want to just be used.

It does seem to be how it is these days, there are so many options for guys to meet girls with these apps...why stop at one! 😫

My now elderly mother hasn’t wanted a relationship for the past 40 years and I thought it was very sad etc. But yep, now I’m starting to feel that way too! I feel like I just “missed the boat” on getting a good guy. Any single men my age are single for a reason! I have now just become completely tired of it and have resigned myself to not being in a relationship again.

I’m sorry but this “you find someone when your not looking” etc is just rubbish! No man is just going to knock on your door one day or fall into your lap. There are many sayings we have that I call “hope for the hopeless” and this is one of them! I haven’t been looking for a few years now so where’s my Mr perfect?

If you want a relationship then unfortunately it does mean having to potentially have a lot of bad dates!

I just regard bad dates as an evening out - even if some of them end up being very short ones!

I've been single 18 mths. Work full time, single parent so not even spoken to another man it feels in that time! I'm middle aged, and from what I've heard from other women about OLD i just don't have the will to even try. Where are all the nice normal men? (Already taken i presume)

I agree with traith and yetmorecrap that this is the nature of the culture we live in at the moment, the combination of extreme porn becoming normalised, technology making communication much more instant and saturating, and online dating sites creating a ‘grass is always greener’ mentality and fuelling a casual commitmentphobia. I’m sorry to say that most single men in my experience are pretty unbearable as a result.

I'd never use kik, it is the home of the creep.

But I do some OLD and never get pics of naked men, so I'm obviously doing it wrong. The sites I use don't allow you to send pics anyway. I only move to using my phone no or WA once I'm about to meet up. It does annoy me if they then start texting constantly, I usually drop them if this happens.

It's no bother giving them the number, if they turn weird you just block the number and delete it.