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Feeling a bit shit

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Nowthefunbegins · 08/05/2018 15:23

Been separated for about a year. Took the plunge into OLD about 6 weeks ago and met a really nice bloke straightaway. Loads in common, messaging every day etc. Been on a few dates, been to each other’s houses. He went very quiet over the weekend and has now just told me he doesn’t want to see me again. I feel ridiculously upset - I know it has only been a really short time but I really liked him. I hate the thought of having to go through the whole meeting someone new again. Just looking for a handhold and some positive vibes xx

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eightfacesofthemoon · 08/05/2018 15:35

be positive!at least he was honest and open with you.
And remember, it really isn't to do with you not being good enough.
You will meet someone new, you've just got to kiss a lot of frogs to get there.
Stay positive, at least you hadnt invested too much.

Try not to build a future in your mind with someone early on, easier said than done though.
xx

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Nowthefunbegins · 08/05/2018 15:54

You’re absolutely right, thank you. It’s just so easy to get carried away in your mind. Onwards and upwards I suppose, it’s just really dented my confidence again

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hellsbellsmelons · 08/05/2018 15:59

This Thread is very useful if you are going through the dating process.
You will kiss a lot of frogs before you find your prince.
OLD is total minefield.
Just enjoy it!

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Nowthefunbegins · 08/05/2018 16:43

Thank you! I will have a look at that thread now x

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sunsetheaven · 08/05/2018 20:00

Don't take it personally! Feel a bit shit for a very short time, but shrug it off - there are plenty more men to meet! Certainly don't settle for the first one you meet. Try to meet as many as you can so you can make a truly informed choice :) Plenty more fish in the sea! Onwards and upwards!

Mountainsoutofmolehills · 08/05/2018 20:05

OLD. Be grateful he let you know and didn't just disappear like a ghost.... Sorry you feel rubbish. There was probably something else going on, that's men. Check out Matthew Hussey on youtube.. lots of videos and some insight. In the mean time, the thing about investing in OLD, is if it works great. But I think when it doesn't you feel like you have an empty investment. At least with something like crossfit you make a crowd of people and get fit......... I am over meeting men. I prefer a busy varied social life....

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