Did your partner give you a present when you gave birth?

[MotherofOne]

I spoke to a friend of mine yesterday who is expecting their first child imminently, and in the conversation she mentioned that her dh had taken her to chose an eternity ring as a gift for her when she gives birth - "as a thank you for bearing our child".
It struck me as rather romantic really - when our ds was born 2.5 years ago this wasn't something we even considered. However when I casually mentioned it to dh I think he thought he was being nagged! (and he's being terribly supportive in all sorts of other ways, so I shouldn't complain...!)
Did anyone else out there get (give?) a 'birth gift' from / to their dp/dh??

I 'hinted' repeatedly to dh that I should get an eternity ring when I was pregnant with ds and his reply was that I could have the baby or the ring but we couldn't afford both!!! I didn't mind ..it made me laugh! He did bring me a large bouquet of flowers and a helium balloon in hospital, and when I got home he had made sure we had brie and bacon in the fridge ready for a yummy sandwich!!
I bought him ceramic cufflinks with a cartoon baby face on one , and new dad on the other.

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Blaarrrggghh!

BTW When I said a goose I meant a real live goose that lives in our garden!

I'm glad you told us that, Susanmt - I've been wondering all day and so has DD!

And maybe Rhubarb wuld like to clarify why she and her DH fell out over a pheasant. The mind boggles, lol!

She is called Murdina, is grey and white, lays lovely bluish eggs and is great company for the 5 hens, rooster, 6 chicks (awww) and 2 ducks who also live at our house.
I think I would prefer a pig to a cow as our next door neighbour already has cows - thay have a small herd of Highland cows and the matriarch just had another calf last week - they look like teddies when they are first born!
Come on rhubabrb, lets hear about the phesant!!!!

Awwww, baby Highland cows, aren't they gorgeous?? There's one near us in Scotland that is black, not the usual reddish colour. When we had a Tibetan visitor, he was amazed to see the Highland cattle, because they are so like the yaks he is used to!

Do you eat the eggs, Susan and if so, what do they taste like?

His mum gave it to us (dead) as she had a surplus. I wanted to cook it but dh went up the wall as he hates pheasant so we had a row about him eating whatever it is I take the time to cook. Turned into one of those 'not touching in the bed' rows! Must have been the hormones.

LOL, Rhubarb! Funny how it's the little things that cause the biggest rows!

So glad (in a way) that other people's dp/dh's didn't get them anything. My dh didn't get me a single flower. Even after I actually asked him. He said that it was our baby so he didn't see why he was buying a present for me!!!! I pointed out that it was me who had the major op but that cut no ice. He did come to see me every day (was in hospital for weeks and bring me food, but that's not exactly romantic IMO -and anyway, half the time he just sat there watching my tv!). We have had so many rows about it. Even ten months on I still have moments of utter boiling resentment. I thought I was the only woman in the whole world who didn't get so much as a daisy when she had a baby, so at least I now know I wasn't alone. As for you lot with your bouquets and diamonds....Bah!

No, nothing here either! Dh did come in at 7.30 every morning to make me tea and fetch toast, and he brought me sandwiches as the meals were so disgusting...but diamonds?!! And yes, it still rankles with me too! Just a little bunch of flowers would have been nice1 (He says there was no room as I had so many others!! Not quite the point!)

Well I had PLASTIC flowers - I can see dh's logic, they will last for ever!

Rhubarb, Love it!!

I hoy a prawn sandwich and credit card statement bought in - not great when you consider that I had an emergency Csection at 29 weeks...

Can I please ask why woman always seem to want jewellery for doing something they were usually the instigators of in the first place?

Huh! Dh wanted kids, I did all the hard work, and I still didn't get a present. How is that fair, Simonhoward?

Didn't get a pressie. DS born on 20 Feb and for some reason DH had bought me flowers for Valentines - so twice in a week - no way!! He's also convinced that eternity rings are for Silver Wedding Anniversarys.

SimonHoward, don't think you can waltz in here and start throwing your weight about - look and learn, you could earn some serious brownie points from DP if you take enough notice.

SimonHoward, I presume you mean the sex part

My view was that people in hospital who have endured pain and suffering always get flowers from those who claim to love them. But not me. Sob. Actually, after reading this thread I raised the subject again with dh (pick, pick, pick that scab!) and we had a giant, massive, wall-shaking row about it again. I also raised the point that he didn't tell me I looked beautiful on our wedding day ('nice' would have done). So not a good week so far. I put it down to post-holiday blues - and my own perfectly justified simmering resentment...

Simon Howard, remember, divorces have been instigated over less.

Simonhoward - are you just playing devil's advocate... or are your knuckles dragging on the floor as you type? If it's the latter I'm sure that Men N Motors must have a chat room of some description that you could subscribe to.

Willow2

My knuckles are well off the floor.

WWW

I actually meant the wanting to have kids.

Aloha and PamT

I told my DW that she looked stunning on our wedding day and that she was a wonderful mum when she gave birth to DD. I must admit to not buying her anything for it as it was her birthday 2 days after she gave birth and had already bought stuff for then (no ring though, 2 so far are more than enough).

For ds 1 I got absolutely nothing.

Tip for all those planning to get pregnant - try & time the birth a month or 2 before the annual bonus (for thise whose dh's get them).

He obviously couldn't think of anything better, so I got a rather expensive eternity ring. It is lovely , but then I am obviously totally spoilt (or rather, just not that much into jewellery), bacause I would have really appeciated something more like a new cardigan, or even better a morning off. Still waiting for that. And I'm stupidly thinking of more??

Faith - tea and toast - you really are lucky - luckily the midwives brought dh a cup, or I'm sure he'd have been kicking me off the delivery slab to make him one.

Sorry, this has brought all those old resentments back to the surface. I've got to moan further about him - I went into labour at 3 am. At 4 he was still on the internet looking for cheap flights for his mum to come over! In the end I had to shout at him to turn off the computer. Our neighbour had agreed to look after ds1 while I was delivering, and as it was the early hours he insisted he wouldn't go over & wake them up - too embarrassing - so I have to shuffle across the road, ring the bell, etc etc, pausing every couple of minutes.

So I think I bloomin' well did deserve a pressie.

hmmm! i never thought about this before, getting a pressie never crossed my mind.... i think i will go give him what for! everyone else gets pressies but me? he is in for it now .... ok so it may have been nine years ago.. but we women never forget!