I want my DP to propose!!

[cherryblossom4]

I've been with my OH for a year. We're both 29. He's divorced (she cheated on him). He doesn't seem to carry any issues from this. Although he had thought he had found the right person, he is quite pragmatic just feels like she wasn't the right person.

We have talked absolutely it the future and we definitely both feel we will be together forever and will definitely get married one day. We are planning on starting to try for a baby at the end of this year. I would love so so much to get engaged now. And I do say it to him in a light hearted way sometimes. My sister got engaged to her boyfriend after 7 years so he jokes that we will do the same. I have been clear that I do not want to wait that long and he does laugh like he's just winding me up. As he has only split from him wife about 19 months ago and divorced 13 months, I think he's afraid that it will look bad.

Anyway I don't really know what I'm asking but has anyone got any tips for making it happen quicker?! HA x

You are in the "loved up" phase where you can't imagine issues, give it 2 years and then review.

Definitely don't gave a baby (without marriage) unless you are certain that you will work fulltime and share childcare equally. It's still highly unusual for men to take equal responsibility as when women are on maternity leave it sets a precedence for workload which seems tough to break.

Scott, in a short marriage without children there is equal risk to men & women.

For all the perceptions of women taking mens money the statistics show that women are much financially worse off than men post divorce.It is childcare duties and costs that is the root of this so until there is genuinely 50:50 childcare the balance will always favour men financially.