Affair

[Andy15]

I'm 33, been married for 9 years with two kids. I've been having an affair with a woman from work for the past 5 months, the connection we've had has been like nothing I've experienced before. We we're both falling in too deep so she called it a day, she couldn't live with the thought of breaking up a marriage (her parents divorced when she was very young).

I'm now going to try and give my marriage another go, but I can't stop thinking about the other woman.

I don't find my wife sexualy attractive anymoe and not sure I love her anymore.

What can I do to try and find the spark we once had?

Tell her- she will find out at some point -

Your wife isn't interested in you. You are interested in your wife. Sounds like it's over.

Trying to "find the spark" with your wife because your mistress dumped you is just gross. What kind of motivation is that?

If you was a woman cheating on your husband I'd say exactly same thing. Tell them so they have the option to leave you

I agree with Disquiet1. There's that saying the grass is greener where you water it. Turn everything back to your wife. Lifebegins50 also speaks sense.