Update on seeing crush after telling him

[Iloveworms]

For those who followed and kindly helped me dig myself out of a hole last week.
I finally saw the poor guy today.
He came in my area to see my boss and I was luckily on the phone. I avoided eye contact and found an excuse to leave the office but it took the edge off it.
At the end of the day I went to his office to respond in person to an email he wrote concerning my project, just to force myself to look him in the eye.
He was not alone so we talked briefly in front of our colleague and I left having at least looked briefly at one another. He smiled slightly awkwardly but must have noticed that I am back to my logical work self.
After I sent a very short message: I wanted to apologise to you. Sorry I put you in that situation.

He responded: No stress. Have a good weekend.

Relief. I think he won’t be reporting me.
It’s over, thank God.

Thanks everyone!!

Interesting, I though we had all advised you not to send any more emails to him?

Mentionitis much?

Please please don't email him anymore! Just stop now. This stuff is fine in your head and not fine when blurted out to your husband and this guy - just stop NOW

FGS

CRINGE

What happened? Link to previous thread?

You really shouldn't have texted him.

For the love of god please don't send him anymore.

Poor bastard.

LEAVE HIM ALONE!

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Iloveworms, thank you for your threads and your honest and articulate posts. I think you are a bit like me (obsessive/impulsive) only I'm rather less bold. I've been in a similar situation (not a colleague) and have recently been very tempted to make a grand declaration of my feelings to him. In reality I think I'd be far too chicken to actually do it, and that forcing the issue in this manner would be embarrassing and counterproductive. Your posts (and the many horrified responses!) allowed me to 'wargame' my fantasy speech and thus definitively talk myself out of actually delivering it, for the time being anyway. I'm in no position to offer advice, but I think that 'Least said, soonest mended!' is the right approach with your office crush.

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Yikes, fixated much?
Really, stop contacting him before he goes to HR. Just keep it work related and take his number out of your phone.

Honestly, this will get better and you'll get over it but you need to distance yourself.

Oh for God's sake, what's with all the "cringe" posts?! It's not that bad! Have none of you ever made a bit of a tit of yourself and said or done the wrong thing? I feel for you worms and I wish the response you'd got from Mr Crush had been a bit more lighthearted but what's done is done. Put it behind you and don't stretch it out with check in texts, you know "are we still ok?" Etc.

Focus on that husband of yours! 😀

OP- sorry to be nosy, but would you happen to be in France? I sometimes am, and it seems to be replete with opportunities for cross-cultural confusion. Not least stuff like 'Is that guy flirting with me or does he always grin and wink like that at everyone?' I don't specifically mean my crush or yours, just random blokes on the street or in shops. It's obviously harder to decode the signals when you're not a local, and I think this increases the problem when you meet somebody who genuinely impresses you, because along with the aforementioned cultural issues there's always a difficulty in divining someone's intentions when your mind is clouded by lust. :)

I’m cringing for you

Can someone post the link to to origin thread

www.mumsnet.com/Talk/relationships/3234167-Did-I-do-the-right-thing-to-tell-my-crush-openly

Lorddenning1 just put the Ops name in the search

Well, i guess the only thing to say here is "roll on your last day"

Then put this whole embarrassing mess straight behind you

I'm not cringing. That sounds grand to me. That's the line drawn under it.

Glad your logical self is back. Loads of people have a wobble and lose our minds a little at some point.

And we all embarrass ourselves occasionally. Myself so many times I think I'm now immune to any form of shame and embarrassment.

Could have been much worse. What you did wasn't that bad. And it didn't involve vomit or wheelie bins so that's good. 👍

I bet he was breathless with relief that there was someone with him when you loomed up at his door, did you know there'd be someone there or did you think he'd be alone? Was it really necessary to go there? Do everything by email and if speaking in person is unavoidable make sure it's totally professional and there's other people there. Cannot begin to comprehend why you sent a message confessing all in the first place

Good. You got closure.

As a pp said, focus on your DH now.

I think it would have been better not to email him. The in-person encounter was enough to draw a line under things, whereas the email brought everything up again. But what’s done is done. So hopefully this will be the end of it.

I think you should block his number and only email him for work purposes.

I read your last post and tbh I think you've acted fine in drawing a line under it. Not cringing at all. Good on you for owning it.