Girlfriend look looks - am I overthinking

[SummerJim]

Recently I’ve noticed my gf glancing over at other men when we’re out. I thought nothing of it initially. I mean it’s nice to people watch. But I’ve noticed her chucking looks at good looking guys only (I’m not bad looking myself). Again fine I’ll ignore it. However it’s becoming more frequent and it’s frankly upsetting me. I noticed last Friday I was driving and we stopped beside a bunch of lads. She spotted them and kept glancing over and playing with her hair. Again I ignored it. She had just done her make up and I’m sure she just wanted to feel attractive (I always compliment her). Last night we was at a restaurant and this guy walks in. Nothing particularly attractive about him. But she turns her head on two separate occasions to look at him ( he was sitting to her right). He also gets up and she watches him throughout his endeavours. I noticed this and it upset me but tried not to show it but I am generally very affectionate and she noticed my change in her and was asking me all night what’s wrong. I didn’t want to raise this in case it caused an argument (we’ve been dating 7 months and to date never had a disagreement). Am I overthinking? I told her when we started dating that respect and having eyes for each other only. I treat her well and shower her with love and affection so this is really confusing to me. Should I ignore it. I don’t think raising it will make things better since she’s probably not even aware she does it.

I had this with my DP not long after we got together. He explained it as simply being used to the single life (he was long term single before we got together) and hadn’t realised he was even doing it. After we discussed it I never noticed him doing it again.

It’s a matter of respect really and she isn’t showing you very much.

If this was a woman posting most of the replies would be saying that your partner is a typical male objectifying women as part of some sort of mysoginistic society blah blah lol.
I'd simply say 'hey we are still in the early stages of our relationship can you keep the leering to a minimum please'

Did you allow for confirmation bias in your double blind study OP.

If you like her, and this is upsetting you, I would just say something- she may not realise how blatant she's being. If she carries on she may not be the lovely soul you think she is.

I’ve been with DH a hell of a lot longer than 7 months and also had healthy previous ltrs.

Checking out other people when you’re in the company of your partner is rude, disrespectful and selfish.
I’d expect my women friends to call out their male partners on this immediately (It’s generally a behaviour more common in the male of the species).

It’s no less unacceptable the other way round.

Next time she does it ask her if you’re boring her.
When she asks why, tell her how checking out other men when she’s with you makes you feel.

If she’s as lovely as you hope, she’ll be horrified and stop immediately.

You really do need to come out with some off colour comment the next time she does it or doormatland awaits OP.

I would literally never do this when out with my DH. I just wouldn't. I've been married to him for 15 years and I just love his face. No-one comes close. It's actually the height of rudeness and disrespect IMO.