Is it possible to fall in love over text?

[SheepandPigs]

Is it possible?

Probably not. Why?

I think it's possible to fall in love with a fantasy that you create from the texts you receive. It's not real life though, and therefore not real love.

No.

Certainly sounds like the next level for the Turing Test.

I feel very much 'in love', but I really think it can't be (as it's over text).

No, and it's extremely dangerous if the other person has a manipulative bent. Anyone can make themselves sound perfect on a screen. Meet them or stop texting.

Has he asked for money yet?

Nope not at all. You haven't met that person. A friend recently went on a date and the guy, who had seemed perfect over messages, turned up smelling awful and clearly had a hygiene problem.

You really really don't know someone until you meet face to face and have known each other a long time.

No! Over text you can take time over your replies and make yourself sound much more funny / interesting / caring than in real life. And what if he has bad breath or an annoying laugh?! Put down your phone and go and meet him!

No. Lust definitely. In love with the idea/fantasy yes. Actually in love with the person, no.

I've been there, twice. Once I went on to meet the person and fall in love with the actual person as well. The other time although I met the person we didn't click as well and it was never a love scenario although we both loved the idea of each other.

Have you actually met?

No not really. I had two long distance relationships, the firsts one I really liked him when we were chatting but when we were physically together I really didn't like him at all.

Second time I was more weary, and I ended up married to him, 11 years now, but obviously there was dating as well, it just started off with texts after initially meeting in both cases.

Have you met? Spoken on the phone?

Love is a nebulous thing and everyone experiences it differently, these threads are full of sensible people remarking that you can't fall in love without meeting, and I agree with that caution, yet people do sometimes fall in love via message or online and it continues when they meet. I'd imagine they're the rare ones, but it's not beyond the realms of possibility.

I would exercise caution and make sure you have plans to meet asap. Treat it as an enjoyable diversion that may not amount to anything. Don't get carried away!

Stop text and meet up.

I don't think it's funny "has he asked for money yet". No, he has not

No, we haven't ever met.

No, definitely not.

Well, are you likely to soon?

I fell wildly in love with someone over text, finally met him, and the feelings had vanished in half an hour. His voice was whiney, what was insightful and witty in a text came across as mean and bitchy in real life, he was an effected dandy, right down to the ostentatious fountain pen and pocket watch. In his photos he looked like Chris Packham. In real life he looked like Chris De Burgh. Wait until you meet him in real life, and don’t leave it too long. I wasted 6 months of my life mooning about after that fool.

How long have you been talking?

Have you spoken to him on the phone and webcammed/skyped/face timed?

Why haven't you met?

No. You are building a picture of an imaginary person in your head; he won't live up to it.

You can't fall in love with someone you've never met. Don't project your own ideas onto a real person.

Nope!

How long have you been texting? Where did you get each other's number from?

I don't honestly believe it possible to fall in love over text, but I'm sure it's possible to form a very strong infatuation.

It's coming up to 3 years now...

He's at the other end of the country. We both started uni at the same time and started talking through a uni website.

I'm the one who always declines FaceTime/Skype, etc. so no, we haven't.

Why haven’t you met?

Havent you watched catfish?