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anothernamechange538 · 29/04/2018 22:34

My sixty year old husband requested to be friends with 9 year old grandchild of one of our customers on social media. I think this is completely inappropriate. Opinions?

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Joy69 · 29/04/2018 22:49

Personally I never accept friends requests from any of my friends children, or in fact from anyone that I don't know fairly well. Your husband has probably done this innocently & not realised the fact that this is inappropriate. I always think 'What do I have in common with these kids', and would I be happy for them to see everything that I post ( nothing bad, usually menopause jokes Hmm). For me it would definitely be a don't go there.

idlikemoresleep · 29/04/2018 22:50

Why does a 9 year old have Facebook?? 😳

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anothernamechange538 · 29/04/2018 22:50

He initiated? The child didn't!

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gamerchick · 29/04/2018 22:54

Then give him a verbal clip. It’s pretty cut and dried.

wormery · 29/04/2018 22:57

Just tell him it's inappropriate, did he say it or put a request on her social media page. She's a bit young to have a fb page.

Muddlewitch · 29/04/2018 23:01

How did you know? Did he tell you?

idlikemoresleep · 29/04/2018 23:05

I meant why is a 9 yo child even on fb on the first place??
Personally think fb is no place for a child that young but definitely not appropriate for him to be requesting her as a friend even if he's doing it with the most innocent of intentions

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anothernamechange538 · 29/04/2018 23:06

I picked his phone up and the display said she'd accepted his friends request.

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anothernamechange538 · 30/04/2018 06:47

Well the fact she has instagram and Facebook at that age is a whole other matter.

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forumdonkey · 30/04/2018 06:51

Completely inappropriate and wtf would he want a 9 Yr old child on his fb? What has he said to you?

ScreamingValenta · 30/04/2018 06:51

What kind of things does your husband usually put on Facebook?

Whyareallmensuchfuckingscum · 30/04/2018 06:54

This is giving me the shudders, very strange, has he done anything like this before? i would be on high alert, but that could be just because of my experience

Masterbuilders · 30/04/2018 07:27

God no. If they aren’t old enough to come out and drink with me, they don’t go on FB was my rule. However even now. I wouldn’t add an 18 year old unless they were family as I have nothing in common with them.

No, no, no. However you should report her account. Seriously FB will remove underage accounts now.

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anothernamechange538 · 30/04/2018 07:28

Typical blokey stuff on FB, sport, social updates, odd bad taste joke posts etc but this is instagram and I'm not a user of it. He's only recently started using it.

Context is the girl's family are extremely relaxed about stuff so they wouldn't see a problem with it all. I'm not keen on the family.

I don't, for one minute, think that my H would have any ulterior motive. He can't understand my concern over it however and he lied when I asked him why he's friend requested her and said it was the other way round. It clearly wasn't what it said on the screen.

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Looneytune253 · 30/04/2018 07:30

What kind of a relationship do they have? Personally, I wouldn’t, but as a childminder if one of the children were on and requested me as a friend it wouldn’t be too innapropriate. As it happens I wouldn’t actually do it and I don’t accept my 13 year old daughters friends either but if they were my little ones I might have considered it?

ScreamingValenta · 30/04/2018 07:30

It's the fact he lied about it that's concerning - unless he realised he'd been stupid and just felt embarrassed.

duckingfisaster · 30/04/2018 07:33

That would make me shudder. Also the 9 year old should not be on there & should be reported, the account will be removed. If the parents are too stupid to protect their child then perhaps you can help?

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anothernamechange538 · 30/04/2018 07:38

@ScreamingValenta

I think that's it. He felt silly.

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Typeractive · 30/04/2018 07:59

It's very inappropriate. It would concern me.

Typeractive · 30/04/2018 07:59

Also, the lie. That's a big red flag.

Cricrichan · 30/04/2018 08:14

Could he have added her by mistake (fat fingers)? So thinks it's her that added him? How computer savvy is he? Lots of my children's friends have friend requested me, especially on Instagram.

idlikemoresleep · 30/04/2018 08:21

Am I missing something here? Why do so many children have social media accounts? 😦

Whyareallmensuchfuckingscum · 30/04/2018 09:27

I think it's also a big red flag that he lied about it to you also.
Do you see this family often, does your DP and this child have a good/close relationship? Did you ask him why he felt the need to add her on FB?
Are you a bit concerned, and needed other people's views on this?

rumred · 30/04/2018 09:53

Hard to see it as anything but odd and potentially predatory

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anothernamechange538 · 30/04/2018 10:49

@Whyareallmensuchfuckingscum

I'm not worried that he is a danger to anyone, let alone a child. What he can be accused of is having bad judgement and dismissing my feelings over the matter.

I wanted to gauge others opinions about my feelings as he thinks my reaction is overly sensitive.

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