I need to make sure that my parents and brother never, ever get access to my daughter if DH and I die - how do I do this?

[blackburnsoldiers]

Long story short, I have only recently come to terms with the sexually abusive environment I grew up in and have been NC with my parents and my brother (also abusive) for a year now.

PIL are aware that we are estranged, but do not know why. PIL are named as guardians in our will should DH and I pass away.

But is there anything else that I can do to reinforce that my birth family are to have absolutely no contact with my DDs in the event that DH and I die?

I know it's unlikely, but I do still need to make provision for this. I absolutely cannot have my DD's exposed to these people and they are too young at the moment for me to be able to explain why. I have to make sure that they are safe.

I am NC with my parents for similar reasons. I don’t even tell anyone that I’m NC, just that my parents are dead. That stops all casual enquiries .

Only my DH know the real reason why and my adult children know that they were abusive but not the details.

Thanks Morven, that’s a good option for people to consider in the future.

Extended family are trickier, though, but it’s gone ok so far.

I'm just bumping in case there's anyone on here who has been through similar and can advise.