This might be kind of long, sorry. I have a very close friend who I work withsenior to me at work. We have been friends on and off for...nearly 20 years. We had a 7 year period where we lost touch, but ran into each other at a conference and rekindled our friendshiplosing touch was largely due to MH issues on both sides, and a pressure cooker working situation.
We have been very close again now for about 6 or 7 yearsin and out of each other's houses, lunch together every day at work, friends-who-are-like-family, trusted him with my kids that sort of thing. He is now doing something of which I suspect he is ashamed (in a personal context), and I have just caught him in a massive lie about it. Now, I don't give a fuck about the thing he is doingthat's his lookout, but due to past experiences lying is the one thing we have always said we wouldn't do to each other.
I don't know what the fuck to do. He is senior to me at work, and falling out with him make my life very difficult. On the other hand, I can't trust him at all...and it appals me to think of some of the confidences I've shared while he was lying through his teeth. Finally, and this may be part of the grieving process, he has been there through so much: touched my belly to feel my babies move, supported me through a career change, that sort of thing. I am not sure I am ready to just walk away from all that. What the actual fuck do I do??