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DH left glass in middle of floor and it’s my fault?

50 replies

Ruby32 · 20/04/2018 18:56

DH got in from work and I brought him a drink and then made his dinner and brought it through for him on a tray with a second drink. He put his drink down on the floor and in the mean time I fed toddler and cleaned up. I asked DH to bring his dishes through. DH moved seat and sat with toddler. I went to leave the room to go back to the kitchen and tripped over dh’s favourite glass (he hadn’t brought this through with the rest of his dishes) that went flying and broke. He shouted at me and blamed me for not looking where I’m going. The glass was in the walkway to get out of the room and had been left by dh in a place he was no longer sitting and in as right out in the way. I was also rushing around looking after him and our toddler. I’m really
upset and feeling a bit taken for granted. What does everybody think?

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Blanca87 · 20/04/2018 18:58

Stop running after the man child. He sounds like a lazy twat burger.

Hernameisdeborah · 20/04/2018 18:59

What Blanca said!

Dozer · 20/04/2018 18:59

He was unreasonable and should apologise.

Don’t be waiting on him.

privateporcupine · 20/04/2018 19:00

Your DH sounds like a pampered princess and he should think himself lucky the glass didn’t get smashed by, or hurt his small child.

Charley50 · 20/04/2018 19:01

I'm not in the best of moods, but he sounds like a blamey prick.

Aprilmightbemynewname · 20/04/2018 19:01

Error in your post op. ..
You were rushing around after 2 toddlers.

Avasarala · 20/04/2018 19:03

Does he often sit in front of the TV whilst you wait on him hand and food?

I'd be having very strong words about that arrangement. He was asked to do one thing - bring his dishes through. And he didn't.

Do not accept the shouting; when you're toddler is in bed tonight, talk about it. Tell him he has no right to ever raise his voice to you, especially over a glass which he left sitting on the floor.

And from now on, don't give him more than one glass. When he wants a new drink, he can refill the old one all by himself.

Mousefunky · 20/04/2018 19:05

He’s an idiot. Stop being his doormat.

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Ruby32 · 20/04/2018 19:06

I’d been waiting on him because I’d been at horn all day looking after our toddler and he’d been at work and had a rough day. I just hope he doesn’t speak/shout at me like that every time he has a rough day. His attitude was awful and I feel like had all tm niceness thrown back in my face.

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Original poster
Ruby32 · 20/04/2018 19:06

home

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Babdoc · 20/04/2018 19:07

He should make his own dinner and drinks until he
a) apologises and
b) stops treating you like a skivvy. Why on earth do you wait on him like this? Why isn’t he helping you get dinner instead of sitting on his lazy backside?

Original poster
Ruby32 · 20/04/2018 19:08

He would do it for me, he honestly would if I was really tired or anything. I just don’t see how it was my fault when he left the glass in a walkway.

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MikeUniformMike · 20/04/2018 19:08

YABU. Glasses are meant to be left on the floor and it's not like they are see through or anything.

Babdoc · 20/04/2018 19:09

Just crossed with your update.
Don’t you think that looking after a toddler all day is pretty exhausting work too? You need a rest just as much as he does!

Penfold007 · 20/04/2018 19:09

He's just told you exactly how little respect he has for you and what your role in life is.

BadlyParkedRangeRover · 20/04/2018 19:10

Christ. Leave this ridiculous manchild

Original poster
Ruby32 · 20/04/2018 19:11

Thanks, I guess so but dh left work to get his haircut and then had to go to a medical appointment so he’d had rough day. I don’t always wait on him like his. I did it to cheer him up and he will do this for me if i’m tired. I was actually going into kitchen to bake brownies for our dessert when I accidentally ran into the glass. Not feeling like making them now!

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RidingWindhorses · 20/04/2018 19:13

Medical appt and haircuts do not rough days make.

Dozer · 20/04/2018 19:14

No, FFS don’t bake for him

Work, a haircut and medical appointment isn’t a rough day!

LiveLifeWithPassion · 20/04/2018 19:15

Does he often blame you?

Original poster
Ruby32 · 20/04/2018 19:16

his medical appt was councilling for an estrangement he’s been dealing with for along time now. Sorry don’t mean to drip feed.

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Avasarala · 20/04/2018 19:17

Unless he's going through a life threatening diagnosis, then a haircut and medical appointment aren't a "rough day". That's just normal life.

It's nice to cook and bake for your family, but not when they see and treat you as a slave.

Original poster
Ruby32 · 20/04/2018 19:17

There are time yes when something happens and I make a mistake and he’s quick to blame me. He didn’t used to be like this.

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afrikat · 20/04/2018 19:17

Missing the point of the thread but when I'm home all day with the kids my DH is the one who takes over when he gets in from work so I have chance to rest.

But no, of course it's not your fault. When he's calmed down I'd have a conversation about how ridiculous it was for him to blame you and give him chance to apologise

I wouldn't be baking him brownies right now either

MikeUniformMike · 20/04/2018 19:18

I was joking BTW. Placing a glass on the floor is a stupid thing to do.

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