Can't stop thinking about this

[MaisieDuke]

I have posted about this before in chat. It has since disappeared. I'm just going crazy and would really appreciate some advice please.
Back story
DH and I had been friends (very casual) with this couple.
Due to a family death we grew quite close to them.
Unfortunately their marriage ended and the lady became quite close to us. Leaning on us for support. Coming for dinner etc.
My DC absolutely adore her and she has older children who they also love.

She was very friendly with my DH but used to say that she looked on him as a brother as she had no family of her own.

Abut 18 months ago I was really ill. What can only be described as a breakdown.
I looked at DH phone .
He had sent her a couple of text messages saying how lovely she was and how beautiful she was inside and out.
Obviously we had a huge argument. He said he was only texting her because she was low because of the divorce and he was trying to cheer her up.
Her replies were just "ahhh thank you."

I was deeply deeply hurt by this, especially as I was so ill. He also said at the time he was under huge pressure from my illness.

We kind of let contact slide.
A month ago we were invited to her wedding. Because of what happened I didn't want to go but in the end we went.

At the end of the evening we went to say goodbye. Her and DH were hugging and she looked him in the eyes, stroked his face and said " are you happy?"
He kind of stood back opened his arms and said "Am I happy?" Kind of as if to say why are you saying that.

We have had huge arguments about this. My feeling was they were having some kind of emotional affair. He swears blind there was nothing to it. He says he thought her actions were strange but doesn't know why she did what she did and just put it down to her being drunk.

He said he would phone her in front of me if I wanted so that I could see nothing had gone on.
We kind of agreed to let it go. I do believe him that nothing sexual happened but I can't stop thinking about it.
Also I'm worried what to say if she contacts me?
Sometimes she just turns up at our house for a visit and I really don't know what I would say if she did.

Sorry for the length. I know I need to get over this but don't know how .

How are you feeling about it all OP.. you okay

Eye contact would be red flag for me. It's a sign of a proper connection. Words are nothing, but I would definitely be worried about the eye contact. I see where you are coming from.
There was a lady we knew. She wasn't a close friend to me or us but every time she saw us, out and about, she would be all over my dh and act as though they had some sort of connection by saying she needed words alone with him. I told her to back off and leave him alone. No one should have the cheek, to ignore someone's partner your friends with both or none. I can see why you feel there is something going on.

Gemini69
I'm ok, thank you for asking.

Still keep thinking about it.

There definitely was something going on.
The other thing I remember at the wedding was she was standing alone by the dance floor. And looking over, I thought to me. But it was DH . They were just staring at each other kind of lovingly.

I was also sober as I was driving.

I think I may say to him that I'm
Going to confront her, see what he says.

Why, so he can forewarn her and they can get their story straight?

I don’t get this she just got married surely she has better things to do then long for your husband!

adayatthebeach
I think it was more a case of 'what could have been".
Yes she must be happy withe her new husband. I think she would have been happier with mine.
You would have thought there had been just the two of them in that room. Not his wife standing next to him while she stroked his face and looked into his eyes.