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If someone sent your husband this

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Alfl1980 · 15/04/2018 21:22

The someone being a woman he works with, and you saw he replied "the boy knows what he wants" or something similar. What would you think? Asking in case am overreacting here. We haven't been getting on at all but wouldn't expect him to speak about our relationship to a female colleague he says he doesn't see that often. I saw the message and reply and feel actually yes is must be about us. He said no not at all, has no idea why she sent that and his reply was in reference to the boy in the picture.

Can you please help me out this in perspective.

If someone sent your husband this
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Alfl1980 · 15/04/2018 21:23

Put this

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Outlookmainlyfair · 15/04/2018 21:25

Very odd to say the least!

TiredMummy18 · 15/04/2018 21:26

WHat was his reply?

Alienspaceship · 15/04/2018 21:26

I can’t Imagine sending to that to someone without there being a context such as a conversation about the person’s marriage.

Snappymcsnappy · 15/04/2018 21:26

Personally, I'd just think it was a funny joke!
Wouldn't be concerned

TheNoseyProject · 15/04/2018 21:27

To my ear I think it’s a jokey response to a bit of a weird email/WhatsApp. I wouldn’t have assumed it was an oblique reference to your relationship.

Awrite · 15/04/2018 21:28

Well, it's a crap joke. If someone sent something similar to me, I'd be embarrassed for them.

Not sure what else to say. Do you think he has been talking about your difficulties? It would make her unsympathetic. Or stupid.

If she's after him, she's doing herself no favours by insulting women.

It's a headscratcher.

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Alfl1980 · 15/04/2018 21:28

He replied "the boy knows what he wants". Snappy - this is what he said. If I received it from a male colleague, or actually any colleague, I would think odd. I think it's odd he didn't find it odd (if I'm to believe he has not been discussing us with her)

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TiredMummy18 · 15/04/2018 21:29

He’s probably been discussing it with her, was there any more messaging history?

Awrite · 15/04/2018 21:30

Maybe he did find it odd but once he'd committed to a response, stuck to it.

SianRunner · 15/04/2018 21:31

It's a shit joke and an unfunny response. Was he embarrassed to have to respond to it, maybe? It's fucking cringe.

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Alfl1980 · 15/04/2018 21:31

A couple of other messages, just chit chat though

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Alfl1980 · 15/04/2018 21:32

Am not even sure why the joke is funny either actually Confused

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meowimacat · 15/04/2018 21:36

I don't think he's necessarily referring to your marriage. However, as you say things are rocky I can see why you would think it could be about that.

What's weird to me is that she is sending something so stupid, it's not even funny. I do feel that means she must be in contact a lot to send something like that. Can't think of sending that to a married colleague I don't see that much unless I was close with them.

Although to be fair I wouldn't even send it as it's just awful and not worth sharing.

Bea1985 · 15/04/2018 21:37

What a rubbish joke! Id ask my husband why a woman from work sent this , as i'd find it... Just odd.

qwertyuiopy · 15/04/2018 21:39

Yes it’s an immature, not even funny, thing to send.

Is the woman not quite all there?

qwertyuiopy · 15/04/2018 21:40

And the boy in the cartoon is presumably talking about his wife arriving for sex at night??? It’s creepy.

Peonyflower37 · 15/04/2018 21:42

A very bad joke from her and silly response from your husband.

It could be that she knows about your problems but difficult to prove.

rainbowduck · 15/04/2018 21:42

I wouldn't be concerned. The joke is so bad, what else could he say? To ignore is rude, so I would take it as a throw away polite response

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Alfl1980 · 15/04/2018 21:44

It's actually caused quite a row. Because he said, I don't know why she sent it, I don't remember what is was about, do I think he's having an affair (I didn't btw)

All I asked was why would she send it and then said it seems very clearly in context of our relationship

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qwertyuiopy · 15/04/2018 21:45

“What else could he say?”

He could have ignored it or told her it was a shit joke.

tigerrun · 15/04/2018 21:48

Sounds like a poor taste 1970’s joke like one of those sweaty misogynistic comedians used to do on Saturday night telly. Very very odd.

pictish · 15/04/2018 21:49

It’s an odd one...but not so much ‘suspicious’ odd, as ‘lame sense of humour’ odd.
Also an odd response. Not ‘in-joke about my wife’ odd, but more ‘I have no idea how to respond to this so I will just make a blunt observation’ odd.

I don’t think you have anything to worry about. She seems a bit dim.

AnnieAnoniMouser · 15/04/2018 21:49

Dear God, I thought I could Olympic Medal worthy assumption making...I’m a rank amateur compared to you. It’s a stupid ‘joke’ and a suitably meaningless reply.

If things are that bad at home for you to make something out of this, you need crisis talks 💐

NeedsAsockamnesty · 15/04/2018 21:51

If it’s a joke it’s a very outdated not funny one.

I would assume she had been listening intently to his woes and he’s done the whole it’s really bad thing

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