Do they ever come back?

[PhonixK]

Recently split from my husband. We've been having a shit few months and he's had enough and left. Doesn't want to try again or do counselling. Nothing.

Do they ever come back after some space or do I just have to accept he won't?

I'm getting on with my life with my 3 dc and not showing him the affect it's having on me.

He's been asking the oldest how I'm doing and comes to get the dc and will stay for a bit have a conversation then go.

He has took his ring off which hurt but I haven't mentioned it to him.

I don't want to get my hopes up so I am telling myself he won't and I need to sort everything out.

did he cheat on you when you were pregnant?
could he have met another woman in the last year while away which made him feel outsider to your family? and at those times you sent those fb messages.
maybe he is trying to put the blame on you, caught something-not very major- maximizing it.

and maybe by behaving like that lately he is trying to punish you?

Yes he did. But I chose to forgive and forget, mainly because he was very honest about it he told me the next day. Which Is why I believe there is no other woman involved. I know he was working with a few females (military) but he never acted as if he was up to no good or anything.

He told me I haven't shown him enough affection in the last 4 years (which actually times well with my pregnancy). I don't want to blame him and I know people fall out of love all the time. I just never believed it would happen to us. We've been through so much together and I guess this was just the nail in the coffin

I was afraid to tell him because I didn't want to lose him, I didn't want to fight, I didn't want to admit the truth. I was a coward and trust me I know this. I was selfish and only thought of me. Again I know this.
Have you told him this? Maybe more helpful than getting childish over a bag of crisps

In my experience men mostly leave when they have another billet to go to.
Even if they swear blind there’s no ow.
Don’t build up your hopes.