Would you still get on a plane if one of your family members were ill?

[LilacBearberry]

I don't want to write too much... but:

Was due to go on a short flight (somewhere still in Europe) with my parents and sibling (both of us are young adults) and I had a gallstone attack at the airport. I'm awaiting surgery.

This obviously stopped me from getting on the plane. Rest of family were very supportive, but when the time came for them to get on the plane, they did go. My mum did leave a key and money, etc. I wasn't just stranded.

They were meeting other family out there, so felt they had to go.

As I've had many attacks, they didn't really feel like they needed to stay behind.

I feel extremely weird about the whole thing. Would you have done the same thing?

Did they leave you to travel home from the airport alone? Did they at least put you in a cab and see you off?

I think in this situation I would. Family knew what was wrong, that there was no serious danger for you etc. I think I'd want them to go too.

If you'd had a suspected heart attack or something similar I would stay to make sure you'd be ok.

I can't imagine leaving you like that without anyone to at least make sure you got home OK. But in your shoes I think I'd have insisted they did go.

I was left at the airport (in agony - couldn't move) so they didn't attempt to get me in a cab (understandably) but my mum left me money to get home.

I would have stayed with you and made sure you were ok.

I can't imagine leaving you in agony at the airport. Would it have been possible for one of them to get on a later flight, or would staying behind with you mean that they'd miss the whole holiday? Hope you're ok now.

Honestly, I have no idea how flight changes work...

Yeah, part of me obviously wanted them to go and enjoy the holiday, but part of me wanted at least my mum to stay with me.

I'm okay now, thank you :)

Nope. One of us would have stayed with you, to check you were ok, to help you back home, and for the selfish reasons that we couldn't have enjoyed our holiday without knowing you were ok and someone was with you.

Did they ask you if you were happy to be left?

I wouldn’t leave you as I would of felt guilty as hell Or 1 of the party would of stayed with you and the rest of them would of gone ahead.

I have older children from my first marriage dd18 and Ds 20 . I personally would not have left either alone in pain or unwell. I'm not saying your family was wrong , just that I couldn't have done it. Glad you are feeling better .

When you say young adult, how old are you? My children are 18 and 16 and I wouldn’t have left them.

My mum wouldn't leave me and I'm 32!

If you were my child Iwouldn't have left you alone or I would have tried to arrange another flight or something adult or not it isn't very kind to leave a sick person stranded.

How old is young adult , and do you live alone or with the family?

I think the biggest issue is insurance wouldn't pay as it's a pre-existing condition, your Mum made sure you got back home OK. It depends if you're the kind of person who just deals with it, or the kind that needs TLC. It's more to do with how you deal with it.

Through the years I've ended up in A&E or hospital and things have been how they've been. A sibling will go to A&E for something a lot less serious and it's like a family reunion. It's just taken that I get on with it regardless.

I'm 19. I do still live at home with the family.

I have a daughter your age and I think I would probably stay just so that she didn't feel abandoned. But I have always been the family martyr who gave up fun things to look after the kids, and have got in the habit of gritting my teeth and just mentally swearing at their dad or whoever for letting me be that martyr, so I'm not sure I'm the best comparison.

If someone had stayed with you they would have lost their money on the flight, could they have afforded to do so? if so then I would be a bit grumpy about being left. Are you planning on joining them for the rest of their trip?

I have a 20 year old and a 17 yr old as well as younger ones. I think I’d only have left if I knew someone else was en route to come for you etc. Eg my sister or friend. I’d need to know you’d be looked after from the airport to home.
So no in your scenario I don’t think I’d have gone.
I’m glad youre feeling better 💐

I think it is hard and of course you would have liked your mum to stay with you but if it is a common occurence and she knows you know how to deal with it, I think it is for you to let her have her holiday. Sadly I think the onus was on you to bear it and let them go.

I'm really amazed at these responses, I was totally expecting it to go the other way 🙈

Having suffered gall stone attacks myself (I've now had it removed) - you have my sympathy at the pain and suffering. BUT you do know it's only temporary and once it's passed you're back to normal.

As a young adult (I'm not anymore), or actually anywhere over the age of 16, there is absolutely no way I would expect anyone else to miss out on a trip in the circumstances you describe. It would be nice of them to offer, yes, but I would insist they go ahead.

Different if you were an actual child.

I'm not sure if I will be joining them. I'm not too sure how I do that. Do I book a new flight/transport? Sorry, I've actually never gone away on my own! Would be great to know.

My parents haven't been in contact much, asked me if I was at A&E, but then just received pics of the hotel.

I don't blame my mum for going, she deserves a holiday, but as I normally end up in hospital for IV morphine, it would have been nice.

Thanks for the replies.

@lackingimagination I know, it's just hard throwing up in an airport toilet, in agony and can't move, on your own. I'm glad she's enjoying her holiday though as she obviously does deserve it :) she's great.

I would have stayed with you. My Mum would have stayed with me, and I'm in my 50s!

The only reason I wouldn't would be if my DC wanted me to go, and there was someone who I trusted to care for them physically on their way to the airport.