One night stand baby support

[misscs]

Hello there im looking for guidance and support.

I had a one night stand- stupidly. With a guy i didn't know too well but had spoke to intermittently for a year.
The one night stand resulted in a pregnancy thus we now have our son.

He was never there throughout the pregnancy as he said he didn't think he was his child- denial potentially?

Ive said that trust now needs to be built between the 3 of us for safety and comfort which he is fine with.

I brought up trying to see where things go with us, and he is adamant that nothing more will come of us that we will parent him and nothing else. One discussion he said ' it would of been nice for him to have a family but it's not going to happen' - i really domt understand from that statement.

His family would love us together and thinks he's an idiot for not trying. He's 25 and in his mum's words he is stubborn.

I feel very deflated about the whole situation that he won't even attempt it.

To me if we failed and nothing become of us then we tried atleast. But to make a statement like that then not want it. What is it ? Is it his stubbornness?

Does anyone have any honest input?
Honest but please don't be rude.

My ideal scenario would be us 2 together and then my son would have a family. Unfortunately i understand I dont have a magic wand but is there anything I can do? Is there anything im been oblivious to? Please anything id be grateful for
Thank you .

snash12, then surely the man should put a condom on the end of it? Men are just as responsible for avoiding an unwanted pregnancy and then stepping up if one does occur. This is the right thing to do but of course many men don't do that.
But please don't suggest that children born as the result of one night stand shouldn't be here. My first son aged 9 was from a very short relationship and he is an intelligent, caring little boy and I feel very lucky to have him. Never for one second did I consider terminating my pregnancy.

Just because you two aren't together doesn't mean your son won't have a family.

You weren't in a relationship with him when baby was conceived so why would you be in a relationship now baby is here?

He's not being stubborn, he's right & men can do sex without any emotion being involved.

His family should mine there own business as a relationhip should only be between the 2 people involved.

He is his own person. He has his own choices. He’s choosing not to be with you, he doesn’t want to. You need to accept that

You both happily used each other for sex which there’s nothing wrong with that. Just because that sex ended up with your son, it doesn’t mean he owes you a relationship.

Very little chance that a relationship would work out in this scenerio. Worst case situation everyone falls out and you end up hating your child's dad. This seems ideal coparent without any feelings.

Your child can have a relationship with his grandparents without you being with his dad.

You can’t force a relationship, you’re strangers that happen to share a child.

He's obviously just not into you, whether physically or emotionally he just doesn't fancy you.

No point someone forcing themselves to try and potentially end up hating eachother.