Just looking for a bit of support/guidance/advice on my situation.
I gave birth to my son in January (he’s 3 months old now) and since he was born, my partner keeps going on massive nights out, getting absolutely smashed and rolling in at 2-3am. I have told him every time how much it upsets me as he’ll be at work all day and then just text me saying he’s going out for a drink after work and then I won’t see him all evening. This has happened about 7 times since I gave birth (which I think is a lot in 12 weeks!) and this last weekend was even worse.
On Friday I found out that on one of these nights out he’d kissed someone out in a bar (when our baby was only 9 weeks old!)He says it was just because he was drunk and meant nothing etc etc but he had text her a few times after.
Last Thursday night he’d been on another night out and he’d seen this girl again (she works with his friend) and then text her telling her where he was once he’d left. They didn’t meet up and then obviously I found out the next day but now every ounce of trust I had has gone out of the window.
He went to work on Saturday and was meant to come home after so we could talk about what had happened and save our relationship basically, but instead he went out to watch the boxing, ended up going to a club and then went to his cousins house and came home at 2pm the next day.
I’m at the end of the line with him to be honest- it’s so hard as when things are good we get on so well and have an amazing relationship, but his drinking and going out (and now what happened with this girl) have pushed me to the edge.
Today we’ve had another row because he’s now making comments about my weight, despite me only giving birth 12 weeks ago, and is saying that the other women on our baby courses were still exercising during pregnancy so why wasn’t I? He’s conveniently forgetting that I have had a back Injury for two years, and have just found out today that I have three discs popping out which is why I’ve been in so much pain for so long. I tried to discuss it with him and he’s just used it as an excuse to comment on my appearance.
I am obviously feeling extremely self conscious about how I look at the moment after pregnancy, but am I wrong to expect my partner to be aupportive of me whatever I look like?
I find this all so embarrassing to talk to anyone I know about it, so I pretend to my friends and family that I’m really happy and everything’s really good, but I seem to spend more and more time crying and am so fed up with it all.