Have I ever had an orgasm?

[Sammy22222]

Hey all,

I know that all women's experiences are different, but I've never had that content 'finished' feeling after sex which some talk about. I get to the point where I can feel my vaginal muscles/body spasming. This stops quite quickly and I still feel ready for more!

Am I just experiencing the beginnings of a climax, or would you say this is it and I'm just greedy...?

Thanks!

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yes you defined orgasm but females can have multiple orgasms ie orgasm and want more. most do not ejaculate

I'd say that you haven't had an orgasm. For me after an orgasm I feel very satisfied and for me I definitely know when it's happened.

'In women, an intense, pleasurable release of sexual tension is accompanied by contractions of the genital muscles.'

www.nhs.uk/chq/Pages/1689.aspx?CategoryID=118&SubCategoryID=119
This stops quite quickly and I still feel ready for more!
orgasms dont last long

If you have to ask, then probably not.

I was having them for years without realising. I am the same as you. I kept thinking wow, if this is what sex without an organ feels like then organsms must be amazing. Eventually realised that orgasms, while nice, aren't really all that satisfying.

^This.

Oops sorry, I was trying to agree with latte. There is most definitely a feeling of satisfaction after even if I feel I could go again quite quickly.

I reckon if to have to ask you probably haven't had one. It is such a feeling of intense pleasure that you definitely would know if you had one.

Have you tried masturbating and seeing what happens?

I’d say you may have had orgasms but just not the best ones. With my ex I would have anywhere between 4 and 12 small orgasms (each of which would have been enough on their own if I was doing it myself) but then it would only end when I got to the mind blowing, exhausting, noisy finale, when I had to smack his hand away and couldn’t take him touching me again. Them’s the good ones.

There are different types of orgasm a woman can have. Latest studies show the clitoris is not just the nub/button but also extends down behind the vulva and around to circle the vagina. So the main 2 types of orgasm are the clitoral orgasm and the g spot orgasm but many more types of sensation are possible. Also each woman is unique in how the nerve endings are distributed throughout the vulva and vagina. So it's up to you to explore your own body and the sensations that await

Recommend "The Guide to Getting It On" as a thoughtful and body positive guide to sex and masturbation.

i dont think you have, its such an intense feeling of pleasure and release through your body, lasting up to 30 seconds for some women (for me its about 10 seconds)

you know that nice feeling when you sneeze? its like that x1000

There are different types of orgasm a woman can have. Latest studies show the clitoris is not just the nub/button but also extends down behind the vulva and around to circle the vagina. So the main 2 types of orgasm are the clitoral orgasm and the g spot orgasm true but the physical sign on both is genital contractions and although many do not notice them that is the definition and that is what the op described

I suspect you've just had the beginning of one, keep going until you hit a peak after which you feel like you have to stop because it's too sensitive to go on.

I don’t think you have ever had a ‘ full’ orgasm.
It took me a long time to get there ( in my 30’s) and I thought I had had them until I really did!
My first really big one felt like I was trying desperately to get somewhere and then just as I got to the edge of the cliff I jumped and flew. It was amazing. And then I knew that for all of my life I had been faking. And I realised that not every woman finds it easy to orgasm.

My top tips.......Don’t drink too much, but make sure you are relaxed. Try not to attempt when you are stressed about anything and try to clear your mind. Just shut your eyes and concentrate on what your partner is doing to you.
You will know you have reached maximum pleasure when you have to pull your partners hand away because you are so sensitive down below!!
Good luck and relax. It will happen.

Everyone experiences pleasure differently but it sounds like perhaps you are beginning to climax but then it stops therefore you’re not peaking. I do know what you mean about not feeling completely satisfied and finished, I orgasm multiple times during sex and wouldn’t feel completely satisfied if I climaxed just once but I know each time I reach orgasm. I’d suggest masturbating to see what feels good etc.

Get yourself a rampant rabbit. Then you'll know

I only ever have the all encompassing, mind blowing type where I shake all over and can take a while before I want to even consider being touched again. . I have always been like this but according to DP (and his bisexual best friend) this isn't common. Acording to that friend once of the frustrating things about having sex with another woman is that you can't tell when they have finished! So as pp posters said, keep on with it until you get to the main event!

Didn't have my first till I was well into my 40s after splitting with my XH!

Just felt like I found a new muscle - and it was amazing. Still I've now not had sex for two years and I don't care!

That's what a vaginal orgasm feels like to me. Very weak and not satisfying, a bit 'did I really even just o or what?'. My husband feels it though...

Clitoral is a whole different ballgame and there's no questioning and 100% satisfaction- I can't touch it again for a while either!

I'm not sure I've ever completely finished! I have multiple orgasms, intense pleasure, spasming, I become flushed, my clitoris becomes overly sensitive sometimes but I can always manage another

I have to decide to stop really because I need to go to work for example & then I want to sleep & sleep.

It's like climbing a mountain where another peak always appears in the misty distance. I don't find it unsatisfactory though!

Current partner & I are trying to get to the top of the mountain