Have I done something stupid?

[Samsan1]

Hi everyone.
Need some advice, 3 years ago my husband was always talking and texting a female colleague out of work hours and not regarding work, I checked his phone and saw the messages ,anyway we had massive arguments over this and he stopped and it took a good while for things to settle and for us to move on. 3 years ago when I checked his phone I saved this colleagues
Number thinking I could see on WhatsApp when they were talking to each other, stupid I know.
Anyway fast forward to yesterday I saw her WhatsApp status a her number was still saved on my phone, I was at a party today and my husband called me to say if I had her number saved and I blatantly denied it and he said she told him i checked her status🙈 and he said that I wouldn't buy she showed him
My number at which point again I stupidly denied, apparently she has my number as with all his colleagues in case if work alarm contact which he only told me today 🙈
Anyway there was loud music and kids running around at the party so I didn't say much apart from I don't have her number and didn't check nothing, he obviously didn't believe me so just said check
My contacts and deletes her number if I have it.
I don't know why I denied it coz now I look stupid, what can I do now, how can I save myself from this humiliation especially after denying it. It's so embarrassing 🤦🏻‍♀️

Aw fuck that's awkward I guess you can just dress up and say 'look I feel like a total dick, I'm just really insecure since all the texting but I'm sorry for doing that'. Perhaps this conversation is long overdue anyway. You clearly don't trust him 100% to have checked in the first place so he needs to give you some reassurance.

Hi I do trust him now as we have sorted all the issues out and actually didn't even remember I still had her number. I never check WhatsApp statuses but did yesterday and checked hers out of curiosity 🤦🏻‍♀️I do feel
Like a dick now, lol but I as hoping I could get away with denying it 🙈

How could she even tell that you checked her status?!

Surely you could just say you had her number saved from ages ago and pressed it by accident while looking for someone else (directly above or below)?

I’m not really sure I’m following what’s happening here, I really don’t understand why she was checking up on you and why she told your husband about it. I’d also be way more worried about why he then immediately calls you to complain about you checking her out on WhatsApp rather than telling her not to check yours out. Why has she even got your number anyway? None of this makes sense to me, but anyway I get that you’re embarrassed about being caught in a lie. If I were you I’d either a) Just front it out. Delete it it from your phone and keep denying it, she’ll never be able to prove anything; or b) ask him what he’s playing at and why his loyalties on such a trivial point seem to be lying with her.

Apparently you can see who has seen your status and as she has my number she saw mine. That's exactly what I should have said but instinctual denied it straight away don't want to admit it now 🤔

I also don’t understand how she could possibly know you were looking at her status if you didn’t message her, but I’m willing to accept that this is just an indication of my total technological ignorance

Eh?! You can't see who's checked your status on WhatsApp can you?!

And actually, fuck that shit - how DARE she and he demand that you delete her number but she’s allowed to have yours without you knowing? I think I’d just have this whole thing out with him, I think there’s something suspicious going on there.

You can’t see who has checked your status on WhatsApp.

Angel you can check who checked your status and she showed him the list of numbers who checked hers and mine was on it so he has got proof, she has my number as the alarm goes off at work sometimes so they all have spouse numbers too in case of emergency.

why would she feel the need to mention it to him though?

Rebellious exactly she shouldn't have and she said it at the end of staff meeting infront of all management team, my husband is a manager too, he said no my wife wouldn't and she showed him I did 🙈

1. she has your number so why can’t you have hers?
2. why would she tell him you saw her status like you reading her status means anything
3. she’s causing trouble and he’s taking her side against yours which is an issue you need to address regardless of how you got her number
4. why does he even care you saw her status
5. why does he care you have her number

Please don’t be distracted by your sneaky behaviour, there’s something weirder going on with those 2.

I don’t understand why she cares you saw her status enough to announce it in a meeting though?

HTH

It's all a load of bull...irrelevant whom it's from.

NAEA
I don't think there is anymore as she Recently just got married, this is just awkward I don't know how I can can deny this, looks like I'll have to own up

So they're still talking to each other about not work stuff outside of work? And the conclusion everyone has come to is that to resolve this, YOU delete her number from your phone so you don't check on this? Riiiiiiiight, that'll sort it...

It's the status marked in red

Oops ..my bad sorry. It's still bonkers.

Why is he jumping to his colleague's tune and not yours?

Oh, missed the bit about the fact she bought it up in a meeting - however I fucking doubt it! That would be the least professional thing to do ever in front of all your colleagues. If I saw two colleagues have this conversation in a meeting I'd think "oh, they're shagging and worrying about x's wife finding out".

So, how do you check who has seen your WhatsApp status then? If you're adamant it can be done, tell us how.

My WhatsApp doesn't look like that screen shot.

Someknobhed I agree it's looks awful,

Just say you let Dc play something on your phone and that they must have clicked on to it. Yes you had her number but you forgot you even did . Then look at him like he is bonkers if he makes a fuss about it. That a what I would do .