Have I done something stupid?

[Samsan1]

Hi everyone.
Need some advice, 3 years ago my husband was always talking and texting a female colleague out of work hours and not regarding work, I checked his phone and saw the messages ,anyway we had massive arguments over this and he stopped and it took a good while for things to settle and for us to move on. 3 years ago when I checked his phone I saved this colleagues
Number thinking I could see on WhatsApp when they were talking to each other, stupid I know.
Anyway fast forward to yesterday I saw her WhatsApp status a her number was still saved on my phone, I was at a party today and my husband called me to say if I had her number saved and I blatantly denied it and he said she told him i checked her status🙈 and he said that I wouldn't buy she showed him
My number at which point again I stupidly denied, apparently she has my number as with all his colleagues in case if work alarm contact which he only told me today 🙈
Anyway there was loud music and kids running around at the party so I didn't say much apart from I don't have her number and didn't check nothing, he obviously didn't believe me so just said check
My contacts and deletes her number if I have it.
I don't know why I denied it coz now I look stupid, what can I do now, how can I save myself from this humiliation especially after denying it. It's so embarrassing 🤦🏻‍♀️

Catch very weird indeed she is like she hadn't caused enough issues between us

She's bang out of order OP... you have my sympathies

Who the fuck cares? Why is this bitch causing problems in your marriage... AGAIN! She is just someone who works with your partner. She has no business having your telephone number without YOUR permission. She has no business contacting your partner to discuss you. Your partner has no business messaging her inappropriately.

Do not jump to their tune. He broke your trust.

Thank you Gemini ( fellow Gemini) if I was the bad person here I could have caused trouble between her New husband and tell him what she was up to before

I would just front it out, delete her number, and say you honestly have no idea how your number appears on her list. After all, phones do weird things all the time. She's got a bloody cheek hasn't she.

If she has your number, I’m not sure why you shouldn’t have hers tbh.

Keep the number. And just say something along the lines of
‘Oh yes. I do have her number. I can’t say I have taken any notice of whatever her status was. Too busy with xxx (party/family/etc) and tbh I dint care about her. Why is she so involved in whatever I or you are doing??’

Tbh her actions in front of the whole management was totally unprofessional and will not have looked well.

Minty thanks she certainly does have a cheek, she knows too well of the problems she caused between us previously,m

Maybe I'm very cynical but I don't think she brought this up in a team meeting. It makes her look very unprofessional and a bit obsessed. No-one else would care that a work colleague's wife had looked at their status.
It's too late now but I wouldn't have deleted her number.

I would front it out, too.

Why is he so bothered about it when "nothing" was or is going on.

That is your bigger issue, I'm afraid.

Viva very true, yes
I think
I will say something along those lines

I have to say the one word that is coming to my mind is ‘shit stirrer’...

After her highly inappropriate behaviour at the meeting, I would continue to deny it.

Viva
Too
Right shit stirrer, she recently got
Married surely she must have better things to be doing

I don't understand why your DH is annoyed with you. You've only looked at a status. It's not a crime. Why is he being accusative towards you? Why isn't he being loyal to you and sticking up for you?

If you've deleted her number; I'd just leave this now. She's on an odd point scoring streak to do this; and there's no point lying if she's got proof in black and white.

Ignore it. I doubt you'll be called on it again; but if you are, just say that you've deleted her number. Details aren't required; they just stoke the fire.

I'd be having a chat with DH about why she's likely to be bringing this all up again in Work, at some point, because it suggests she might be about to make a play that her career has been affected, but I doubt you'll get a fulfilling conversation right now.

Seventh he did try to stick
Up
For me
By saying I would never check her status but he didn't know I had her number, but I think he's more annoyed that he was embarrassed at his meeting

He wouldn't have been embarrassed in the meeting if he hadn't started all the trouble himself years ago.

but he didn't know I had her number,

But SHE had YOUR number too 😂😂

And I understand that she's saying that she has your number in case she needs to contact you in an emergency

But surely you , therefore, need HER number in your phone so that you actually answer the emergency call.

I don't answer calls from numbers I don't know.

Seventh very true

You could just say you were clicking on everyones status and may have clicked through hers as well. Besides, I agree with pp's that if she has your number you should have hers too. Nothing wrong with that!

I’d be honest with your DH and tell him the truth. But I’d also be having a conversation about what she brought it up and why he feels the need to tell you to delete her number or to deny you’d look at her status in the first place. She has you on WhatsApp, not your number noted down in case of emergency but on a messaging app, she also doesn’t have you blocked from seeing her status (which she could easily do!)
She’s shit stirring and very unprofessional or there’s still something going on between them.

And if she has your number it’s only logical you’d have hers. Otherwise she’d be phoning in an emergency and you might not answer as it would be a unknown number (I know I never answer unknown numbers to my mobile). Although I don’t know any company that insist on having partners number in personal mobile phones. Kept in the office as emergency contact yes, but not just in the managers personal mobile.