Don’t know where to start!!!

[Zeze247]

So I’m gay (well I’m in my mid 30s and have only ever been with women) but recently experimenting with the opposite sex for the first time it doesn’t repulse me and I cant believe I’m writing this but I’m starting to consider acting on it. Utterly confused too old for this shit 🤪 where do I even start!!

I am a long term poster I promise I’ve just name changed.

Go with it maybe your bi.

Why is everything son labelled these days? Be open to the opportunity that if you meet someone great and who treats you great then lucky old you be them animal, mineral or vegetable.

Good luck OP

Where do you start? Million dollar question for lots of us I think!

You just go out to meet/look online as you would do for women maybe? You're already experimenting so could you go somewhere with that and see how you feel?

Just go for it and with it. Not too old. I suppose just take it slow as this is probably quite a shock for you and be honest with yourself and other party if you think it could go somewhere.

It might be for you, it might not. Go with the flow and see who you meet. Be safe and be honest (can't believe I said that. So mumsy. ). Have fun!

Go for it! You're probably bi..
It's about love after all isn't it?

Completely agree @KC225

But I do draw the line at bestiality. And parsnips.

If you're not committed to anyone you can do what you want. Enjoy it

Why is everything son labelled these days?
From the young people i know I think things are much less labelled these days. But I’ve always had a label and now feel like my label is wrong.

But I do draw the line at bestiality. And parsnips.
Previously I’d have preferred a pasnip to a penis.

Well a parsnip is somewhat more aesthetically pleasing...

Your label is fine. A shock to you I'm sure, but if feels right (and it's not illegal or one of your 5 a day) there's no reason to not go for it.

Is there someone in particular who has made you feel a little less repulsed or do you just feel you may be attracted to men in general?

There’s someone that keeps cropping up but...... other stuff too! Honestly I feel as confused as I did at 12, actually more confused.

To me it sounds like, potentially, a very exciting time for you but I can appreciate for you it is very confusing leading to trepidation.

Go with your gut and while it feels right it is right.

Goes to show you can feel sure what 'box' you fit in to but attraction can catch you by surprise and there's more fluidity to it than we thought. Good luck.

Sorry to jump on your post but I feel like I'm in the same situation but the other way round. I'm confused to what this means and how I can find out if it's curiosity or an actual thing

You start by enjoying it,oh the possibilities....that have now opened up(excuse the pun). I appreciate your confusion,but for now,just enjoy it,over time it will come less of a shock to your system.

Honestly it all feels ridiculous I don’t even know how you’d make that step as far as everyone is concerned I’m a dyke - a fairly dykey dyke!!

How I’d make the step^^

So I'm guessing from your dykey comment,you've always been repulsed at being with a man? In fact,the penis full stop,has always been disgusting to you.....and now your confused why now are you finding yourself attracted to it?

Step out of "your label" OP, and see where it takes you.

There is no law to say you have to be a "type". That's the beauty of living your own life.

Was it the fact it was a man though, or is it someone who you've gotten to know, done stuff with and are now attracted to him as a person, and he happens to be a man? I came out at 17 but was attracted to women for a few years before that, but I'm now in my 30's and married to a man and we have 2 kids. I consider myself bi, although I see people, rather than what sex they are, iyswim.
You could try online dating, thats where I met my husband lol

Bexter801 yes repulsed is one was of putting it. heartofglass I’ve not done anything with anyone. There’s someone who has cropped up in thoughts a few times but it’s a more general hmmm thing at times.

It’s a bit like I’ve always found women skilled in a certain area extremely attractive but now it’s moved over to the other too!!

Majority of lesbian relationships are fuelled with ''ugh could never be with a man'',they're ''dangly bit'',no thanks..yet in a lot of these relationships we have 'accessories' that resemble male anatomy . So is it that it's somewhat ingrained in your head,that there's no way you should be attracted to men,and his dangly bit!

Bexter801 I’m all good with the accessories!! I’ve also always liked boobs too. And hairy dangly bits are a bit weird! I’ve just never been attracted to men and it’s not a man hating thing, I know some men I really like.

And these accessories resemble male dangly bits?! I also don't find men's hairy dangly bits good to look at,however without being too crass,not looking, but feels great women's bodies I undoubtedly find way more pleasing on the eye,and in general,softer,cosier,warming,more sensual....but men's bodies I find cuddlier,more powerfulish!,so both have amazing qualities,that can't possibly compare

Well they don’t look like them but fill the same role I suppose