New to dating and need help

[Sukistjames]

I'm now 18 months single after a 13 year marriage.
I met a man whilst out with friends last night and we got on well.
I want to message him but no idea what to say. Will he think I'm ridiculous? Maybe I totally misread the signals. My self esteem is in the toilet right now and I know I'm overthinking this but I have never dated before and never thought I'd be starting out again in my mid-thirties.

Anyone?

Well, you know what they say - 'Faint heart never won fair lady'. Why not message him and say that you enjoyed his company and would he like to go for a coffee? The worst thing he can say is 'no'. If you haven't misread the signals, then you might end up having a lot of fun; if you have misread them, you might end up making a friend - and we all need them.

I'd recommend you to do it, and do it now. Good luck.

Thank you taking the time to reply.
I've just messaged him
Can't believe how nervous I felt just typing a message so not sure how I'd cope if we actually had coffee!

Go girl put yourself out there it's 2018 not 1800s

No reply yet

I'm nervous for you! Hope he replies!

Oh how exciting. Do let us know if he gets in touch

If you are ready for dating, then go for it 💓

Sent it through FB messenger and I can see he hasn't seen it yet so I'm still hopeful

Are you his friend on Facebook? If not it might have gone to his message requests and he might not see it!

Send him a friend request then he'll definitely see your message. I hope he replies!

No, Kitten, I'm not. Should I add him in messenger? Or will that look like I'm trying too hard?

Add him as a friend! What have you got to lose?

I've added him. Thanks for the kick up the ass, guys. I feel so useless at this kind of thing

I'll be following this to see if he replies! I am living vicariously through mumsnet

Kitten, I'd be doing the same. I actually can't believe I'm ready to try to meet someone after being totally screws over by the STBXH.

STBXH? What the tits is that? 😂

Ah! Googled it!

Hope he messages you back OP.

Hope he messages you back, but I am of a mind that if he wanted to meet up he would contact you or have at least asked to swap numbers?
Anyway fingers crossed for you.

You could be right, Crimson.

Hope not though

Didn't get chance to swap numbers as my mate dragged me away mid-snog to our taxi (I realise this makes me sound about 14 )

He said as I was leaving that if I wanted to contact he I could find him on FB as he is a friend of a friend. Although, of course, he could do the same so he just may be not interested.

Any news OP? Well done for being brave though. It sounds promising !

He's accepted my friend request but not messaged me back yet.
Ah well, nothing ventured, nothing gained. It's very unlike me to message a man after meeting and snogging him in a bar and I'm feeling quite proud of myself.
I may even pluck up the courage to begin OLD.

Thank you all for your advice and crossed fingers

Oh no! I'm trying to think of a way that he's possibly not seen the message, maybe as you were not his friend when you sent it it's still in his message requests? is the message showing read?

Ah OP, he may answer soon it's early days.

I met OP on a night out, couple of years after my relationship ended. Eyes across a room moment. I was leaving so had a split second decision to make - I never instigate convo or contact with a man, but I did this time. After brief chat he said 'find me on Facebook'. I did, and added him. It took him 2 days to message me. 5 years later..here we are☺️.

Kitten, the message is showing as read.

mistress, my friend had said men are weird and don't reply straight away because they're playing it cool Fingers crossed