Husband complimenting old acquaintance and asking for mobile number

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DH left himself logged onto FB on my notepad and I saw a message that he sent to an old acquaintance which has made me pretty unhappy.

He started by saying how he had spotted her comment on a friend's post and how he's got so much to talk to her about, after 25 years. He then suggests that she sends him his mobile so that they can talk or message via WhatsApp - interesting here that an innocent suggestion would surely have involved him simply giving her his number. He finishes it off by saying how beautiful she looks, still smiley "soooo good to see that', oh and saying hello to her mum - I suspect he actually stayed with them as his club's arrangements when he was still playing professionally.

He doesn't go out, doesn't behave strangely... he does seem less interested in sex...

Her reply was friendly but no number and nothing inappropriate, and that was 5 days ago (she said something about being at work and messaging later but no follow up). At the end of the day, it's his behaviour that I am interested in, and how I deal with it...

And no worries at all Alicia thank you x

Why would he delete it if it was innocent and you already knew. It's all abit fishy to me.
But sweetie only you know you and your relationship. Can you live with this and trust it? Or will it eat away at you and will you always be wondering what if?
That's your decision to make alone.

Exactly onelasttime I am not sure I can live with it... and I really wish he had stayed away. As it stands, I am having to smile and be cheerful at work and do the same at home as his children are down until tomorrow.

How are you OP?

listening stressed and sore thank you for asking though x

I am not ready to deal with what has happened, so I am being friendly but that's it. Somebody who goes asking for a woman's number and calling her beautiful behind my back is simply not deserving of my love.

A couple of responses here thought I was overreacting; I disagree. That message is the only one that I am aware of. It may be the only one, or there may be plenty more. And even if it was a one off mistake , I would not do that to him and expect the same in return, regardless of how far that would have gone. "Soooooo beautiful..." sh*t, it still makes my blood boil

Anyway, Happy Easter!!

I hope you're okay OP

Thank you personal

Things just seem to going from bad to worse, and I don't understand why.

A few weeks ago, I had a pretty miserable Mother's Day as DS just about manage to fit a drop-by in his busy schedule. I hadn't seen him and weeks and was looking forward to us at least having a cake and a coffee together. We fell out, and I didn't even see him.

Then this thing with 'husband' started last Friday, when I saw the message, and it's been miserable at home since.

Today, after checking with DS a couple of days ago that he was still coming over for an Easter meal, he's cancelled saying that he is too hungover.

The two men in my life who are supposed to love me and cherish me the most, have managed to make me feel totally worthless.

Today, after checking with DS a couple of days ago that he was still coming over for an Easter meal, he's cancelled saying that he is too hungover

Shitty but not abnormal for young people to be too hungover to attend events. It doesn't mean he doesn't love you, or thinks you're worthless.

It will feel worse because of your husbands behaviour though. Hope you can do something nice for yourself today or tomorrow