Been with my boyfriend now for almost a year and we are moving in together soon.
But his attitude towards me is getting tiring. He says he is just having a laugh and I shouldn't take it seriously, but he blames me for literally everything. If anything goes wrong, it's my fault. If he does something wrong, it's my fault. It's always something I did. Even if it is a joke, I hate it. I've told him this a million times and he keeps doing it. He also calls me useless frequently for the same things. My self esteem isn't great and this doesn't help.
He just doesn't listen in general. I have the implant in my arm for contraception and I told him this, told him to avoid touching it, so what does he do? Presses down on it a lot. Pushes it, not deliberately I think, he's just rough and when cuddling me from behind on bed, will push his hand against it. Its now hurting my arm because he has pushed it do far into my arm, I'm not even sure how the doctor is going to remove it anymore. Every time he pushed it, I told him to stop it and he said he would then does it again the next day. He also likes to play with my hair, but usually pulls it, again same thing, tell him to stop, he doesn't.
He is generally lazy too, doesn't clean up, leaves my room in a mess (we stay with my parents fit now) and all he does all day is play games and watch YouTube. I do everything, all cleaning etc have to bring him stuff because he is a 'guest' according to my parents. He then watches YouTube all night which keeps me awake, but he doesn't care about that either. It's only ever about him. He can't sleep so needs to watch YouTube. Sod me that has to get up at 5.
He annoyed me through the process of finding somewhere to live too. He barely helped even though I was stressed about other things too, just left it all to me. The other day, I finally got something sorted, came home from a busy day at work to find my room in a mess and him sitting there playing games. No attempt to clean up. Then later that night he asked me to get him something and I just snapped. Was sick of being his slave and told him no. I then got told off by my parents and to get him it. I did and then just went away and didn't speak to him for the rest of the night.
I am just sick of him not listening and clearly nagging him isn't working. Anyone know of a way to actually get him to listen to me and to help me, stop hurting me etc. Am I being unreasonable, should I be treating him as a guest? I don't think I should, he's been there for months.