It's starting to hurt now

[Puddingmama2017]

My partner walked out this afternoon after packing a bag. I was so angry at first but now it's starting to hurt.

There's been no contact so I don't want to message him. Need some help to be strong.

Sorry posted in the wrong place. 😫

What happened OP? x

Do you want to report to have this moved to Relationships?

Are you able to tell us more about what happened?

It doesn’t matter where you post. You know what’s right for you. If you don’t want to contact him then dont. Distract yourself. Can you speak to a friend / relative? Can someone come and be with you? Do you have a favourite film you can put on? Anything to stop you thinking about it.

He's been awful anyway but still.

I was trying to discuss the issues we had with him and he just stormed upstairs and packed his bag.

How long were you together? Any DC? Ask this to be moved to relationships if you didn't mean to post on aibu.

Is separation what you want? If so then this could be for the best If he is awful to you and behaves like this!

3 years, 1 DC.

I think it is. I just hate how he plays tricks with me. As soon as I tried to talk to him he said 'oh yes, I'm so selfish, well if I'm that selfish then I should just go as I don't make you happy' and went and packed.

Sounds like he is pretty selfish. He probably expects you to beg him to come back.
Try to distract yourself and let your brain get used to the new situation.

Just feel so lonely, but truthfully I've been lonely a long time.

Another woman?

How old is dc? It's still all very raw. You say it happened just this afternoon. Your emotions will be all over the place.

But what do you want to come of this? Would you want him back and try to work on things or are you going to move on and let him go?

How entangled are you? Marriage, mortgage? That sort of thing.

Lock the door and leave the key in 😠

It may hurt now but a bet in time you’ll find someone better. Chin up shoulders back and fake it until you make it 💐

Dc is 10 months. No marriage or mortgage. A clean break.

Not heard anything.

Must be hard OP. This is the hardest part though it will get easier.

I really hope so. It's hurting so much right now. I can't believe he's doing this.

Morning OP, how are you feeling?

Sounds like he was looking for an excuse to leave. What you've related seems a pretty flimsy reason to go, and it does seem to be the case (judging from the many, many threads on here) that men in particular, don't tend to leave established relationships unless they've somewhere/someone to go to.

for you

Hope you managed to stay strong. Wait for him to make contact. He will regret his decision when reality starts to kick in. I am sure you made Life very comfortable for him.
You can then decide if and how you move forward.

Feeling like shite. I've let people know he's not here.

He was in the pub last night and presumably went to a mates last night, though I can't be sure. I have a horrible feeling there's someone else.

Look after yourself, its a bloody big shock to the system.Do you have anyone you can talk to?

Yes, sort of.

Only neutral people though.

Just so angry.

I know how hard this is. If you can hold your nerve he will be wondering about you sooner or later.

So sorry you are in this position it is shit. Lean on people they will want to be there for you. Look after yourself and just take it as it comes xx

“well if I'm that selfish then I should just go as I don't make you happy' and went and packed.”

Is your partner my ex?! He was always saying things like this during a row before dramatically throwing his things into a bag and storming out. “Well obviously I’m just a horrible person then! I’m off.”

Does he say these sorts of things regularly? Has he threatened to leave before?

I agree, don’t make contact. It’s what he wants.