anyone else not close to their siblings?

[ssd]

and it makes them sad?

mine moved away over 30 years ago so I grew up like an only child (am the youngest), parents died and now its just us left, I tried to keep in touch but it was all one sided and eventually it hurt too much and I gave up

wish I had siblings I was close to, I have no other family

anyone similar? sometimes it feels like everyone except me has extended family who get on, or keep in touch at least

joystir59, it's horrendous, isn't it? Why on earth would you not want your own children to get on and actively stir the pot (as mother did)?

DH has an elder brother he's probably seen about 10 times in the last 20 years, they never phone each other either. But if you asked them, I bet they'd both say they loved each other etc. Etc. Seems odd to me but I don't get involved. Their circus and all that.

@joystir @cert

Same. My mother is never happy without conflict, I’ve been NC with her for many years (for lots of reasons) and I’m very LC with my 4 sisters. They’re all the same: vapid, egotistical, shallow nightmares. They never have anything to say to or about anyone. Hysterics at the drop of a hat. I have very little in common with them.

I miss the good times I’ve had with siblings during my life but the mother narcissism has engulfed them and i’ve had to disconnect for my own sanity, it’s a tough and challenging adjustment but I do know a line has been crossed and it’s all irretrievable so adjust to it I must, have been NC for more than 2 years now and dreading the inevitable decisions that will have to be made when elderly narc mother dies, until that time I can more or less avoid any contact with them. IME it’s been a sort of grieving for the death of those relationships and deep sadness for how fucked up it all is