Husband has just walked out on us and won’t answer the phone

[TheShaniaTwainExperience]

Pretty sure he’s gone to his mums as I’ve texted her and she’s read the message but not replied. He won’t answer my calls and texts. Run out of bloody nappies as I was counting on being able to pop to the shops when he got back from work. Turns out he called in sick and took a half day, didn’t tell me. Went to his mums.

Feel sick and numb. I’ve got absolutely no one to talk to.

[tolerable]

i dont mean to sound heartless.he has prioritised,for whatever reason. you must do the same. its awful,heartbreaking and above all a shitty end of the stick your on. you hold all the answers to changing that now-whether you want to or not. i wish you all the luck in the world x

[EinsteinsArousedSausagesHCB]

It doesn't sound pathetic at all OP, the only people who sound pathetic is your arsehole DH and his arsehole enabling DM.

[TheShaniaTwainExperience]

Thank you everyone.

Bed now. Good night

[DogWoman123]

You have no idea what the OP's DH is thinking!

[EinsteinsArousedSausagesHCB]

Night OP, try and get some rest.

[Juells]

tell him that you are here when he's ready to talk

Why does she need to do that? She's been texting him and his mother, they know she's there when he's ready to talk. He's the only one who can initiate a conversation.

[billybagpuss]

Good night, have a good nights sleep

[Wdigin2this]

I would say, you're well rid of him! Get through tonight, then go and see a solicitor tomorrow and send him notice of divorce for desertion!

[faireemuff]

Tell him to fucking stay away. If by DH did that I'd be dropping off his possessions in carrier bags outside his mums.

I can't abide pathetic men.

Get yourself some self respect for your kids x

[Viviennemary]

I wouldn't write off your marriage yet. He has walked out for today and yes it's a selfish and immature thing to do. Mothers who take poor little baby boy back are annoying. And the not answering the phone thing is pretty bad. If this was my son I'd tell him to get back and face up to his responsibilities. Wait and see what happens tomorrow.

[Coyoacan]

I wouldn't write off your marriage yet.

I disagree. I don't mean that the OP should never take him back, but if he is able to just waltz back home tomorrow as if nothing has happened, this behaviour will continue at infinitum.

[billybagpuss]

Hope today goes well for you. If he has a change of heart make sure anything that you agree to is on your terms.

You said upthread all you have to do is get a job as it is your house. It might be worth investigating this option whatever happens today, as it will give you independence and social outlets outside of the DCs. So even if he does try to come back today and you chose to allow him to you will be in a stronger position for the future.

[Notproudofthisone]

Hope you’re alright OP. I’m sure you’ll get some brilliant advice on this thread no matter what happens, hope you got the nappies this morning

[TheShaniaTwainExperience]

Thanks everyone. Got nappies so all is good, just feel a bit numb and lost tbh. Also there’s a been a leak in the downstairs maisonette (we’re upstairs) so that’s another concern if it’s our fault somehow.

Just going to chill for a while. Feel so tired!

[EinsteinsArousedSausagesHCB]

Did you end up having to go get the nappies yourself? Try not to concern yourself worrying about the leak.
Hope your friend managed to come over and help.

[Justturned50]

Did he come back?

[LesisMiserable]

If I was depressed and walked out of my family home, my mum would 100% take me into her house and have my back first and foremost because that's how most mums are, rightly or wrongly, so let's stop slagging off the mum for being a mum.

OP, I assume you've stopped contacting him, hard as it is, keep it up. Yes he's behaving badly, but getting yourself in a knot trying to speak to him is not worth your upset.

Let the dust settle, people like this make themselves dispensable.

[RedForFilth]

Don't contact him. If he wants to be a dad good but don't chase him. He's shown he doesn't care. Do you have your own income? Can you manage your home and bills? I found it best to sort all the practical stuff asap. You will be strong because you have to be for your children. Good luck.