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For you marrieds

58 replies

PregnantGrrrl · 07/05/2007 19:27

If you could go back and do it all again, would you still get married?

Did your wedding go how you hoped it would?

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nickytwotimes · 07/05/2007 19:54

yes two times!
my dh is a pain in the ass but i love him dearly.
my wedding was low key but we had all the important people with us and it was great.

lucykate · 07/05/2007 19:54

yes, yes and yes

marthamoo · 07/05/2007 20:00

Yes, I would marry dh again.
But my wedding day was blardy awful - so I wouldn't do it like that again.

Tickle · 07/05/2007 20:01

Got married when 13 wks pregnant - morning sickness had just worn off! Didn't think I was too bothered about getting married, but it was actually a lovely feeling being a Mrs!

Finally hit me as I said the vows.

My best tip - remember to sort out which one of you is going to take money with you when you leave the reception. We spent the night in a local b&b, which was lovely, but we couldn't even go out and get fish and chips!!

Oh, and I also forgot shampoo, cos I didn't foresee that the hairdresser would spray my hair totally rigid

have a lovely day

lazycat · 07/05/2007 20:24

I was very emotional too - nearly burst into tears during the rehearsal! To try and avoid crying all my makeup off on the day, I visulised the wedding in my head lots of times the day before - I had a good blub, and managed not to cry on the day.

It was a magical day and I'm very happily married. Hope you have a lovely wedding!

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yacketyblah · 07/05/2007 20:32

The only thing I would do differently is my outfit. I was cringing at the thought of being the centre of attention so just wore a simple two piece suit rather than the full regalia. DH had a beautiful green velvet jacket specially made and I really wish I'd had a more special dress.

It were still fab though

Washersaurus · 07/05/2007 20:42

If I did it again I wouldn't bother bending over backwards to try and keep certain members of my family happy (we are no longer on speaking terms anyway despite my efforts)

Bucketsofdynomite · 08/05/2007 09:41

I would whisk DH away to Vegas and we'd get married by Elvis in secret. Big meringue wedding is my biggest regret, it was so not us but vanity and Argos wedding list for fixer-upper new house took over. My boss flew off and left in me in nightmare stressful position at work the month before it and I still haven't confronted my mum about her controlling ways and how much she made me cry - was just an awful time. Ceremony was just stagefrighty hell so didn't mean a thing and I hardly saw DH throughout the day!
We're saving up for a 10th anniversary pretend ceremony/vow renewal in Vegas.

thegardener · 08/05/2007 12:22

poor you bucketsofdynamite, when you renew your vows it will be very special i'm sure. mums are quite controlling when it comes to weddings, mine was too but thankfully we arranged a fairly quick wedding & pil had already booked a holiday prior to wedding so they didn't get too much of a chance to interfer. in saying all that it was a lovely day, i was very nervous & was sick in the morning but after that felt as cool as a cucumber once i got to the church.

thegardener · 08/05/2007 12:23

yes would marry dh again, he's great!

lucy5 · 08/05/2007 12:24

Yes and yes.To be honest we had been together for so many years that it didn't make much difference. we combined our wedding with dd's christening the following day and had a huge garden party.

ash6605 · 08/05/2007 12:30

i would have still got married but would have nicked of and done it abroad.

long story but my parents who we were never close to did not support us getting married,we were never close to his family either so we booked to marry in the dom.rep with our two kids there as bridesmaid and pageboy,no one else.

we were so exited but 2 days before we were due to fly my mam was diagnosed with terminal cancer so we had a quickie wedding over here instead.

for various reasons we now don't speak to my father,are still not close to dh's family and don't exactly have great memories of the day.

sorry that sounds like a bit of a rant but it still upsets me to this day that our wedding wasn't what we'd planned.

ChocolateFace · 08/05/2007 12:48

I'd still get marrried to my lovely DH, but would have a much more lavish event, with an evening do. We're planning to have our evening do on our 10th aniversary at the same venue where we were married. It's going to be great; everything I wasn't alowed on my wedding day,a live band huge buffet, even the swan ice sculptures!

chopchopbusybusy · 08/05/2007 13:01

Yes and yes. Wedding was exactly what I wanted - small and informal. Hate lavish weddings.

oliveoil · 08/05/2007 13:05

yes - married 5, together 11

yes - married in Las Vegas, organised the day before in about 5 mins, no stressing over Aunt Val who hates Uncle Thomas and why isn't Edna sat on the top table etc etc

LilRedWG · 08/05/2007 13:06

Yes & yes. Wonderful DH and I will have been married ten years in December.

LilRedWG · 08/05/2007 13:08

Ash6605 - maybe a trip to the DM and a vow renewal celebration is in order. I normally think they're a bit naff (sorry if I offend anyone) as once you've said your vows you have said them, but in your case I think it would be lovely and very apt!

maisemor · 08/05/2007 13:09

Yes, yes.
one of the best days of my life. have been married for 7 years now. The whole thing just went far too quickly, and 2 days before wedding hubby burned himself on lasagne, so he had a "scar" on his forehead (our microwave was on top of the fridge back then). He still can't laugh at this, the rest of the family did and still do
First time he wore makeup (and he swears the last as well...to cover up burn that is).

trice · 08/05/2007 13:26

I loved my wedding day and I love being married. 11 years and counting.

ash6605 · 08/05/2007 13:31

i agree LILRED,thats what we plan to do if we make it to the 10 year mark!!

FiveFingeredFiend · 08/05/2007 13:32

No. However my wedding was truly wonderful

harrisey · 08/05/2007 16:55

Yes and Yes.
Been married 12.5 years, and it was a onderful day.

I don't think I would have the same type of wedding (big formal do) now that I did then, it would be more relaxed. But it was what I wanted then.

MrsCarrot · 08/05/2007 16:58

Yes!! Got married nearly 2 weeks ago and I'm still on a bit of a high. It's lovely but maybe I still have the rose tinted newly wed specs

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