AIBU to be annoyed that I never got anything for Mother's Day??

[Rmcni08]

So over a week ago my mother in law quite suddenly passed away. Obviously today is Mother's Day and I am very aware it's going to be an awful day for him. I wasn't expecting presents and flowers or a meal out like we normally do. But AIBU to be a little disappointed to not even get a card from my 3 children? I actually feel a bit awful being disappointed but I can't help it. Obviously I haven't said anything to him and I won't but I do feel I little sad I didn't get even a card,

I think you’re getting a bit of a hard time OP. Yes, it must be a bit disappointing not to receive anything but obviously you understand why and you’re supporting your husband. Doesn’t stop a little bit of hurt for you. Let it go.

FFS people stop being such friggin martyrs. My life is shit, you are so ungrateful. Some people get a piece of coal.
Some of you are so unbelievable. OP said she felt crap for feeling as she does, and understands why it’s not a priority this year but somewhere inside she wanted to feel appreciated. Today is a day for people to say Mum, I appreciate what you do for me. If your little people are too young then it’s up to your DH to help them do it. That’s not asking to much FFS. And it’s ok to feel a bit sad if it doesn’t happen. For whatever reason.
OP ignore the PP who have a stick up their arse. Leave your DH to grieve and take the kids out for the day. Spend time with them.
Oh, and happy Mother’s Day. 💐💐

I strongly believe in husbands supporting getting something for their wives, but in this case I think I’d take them to the supermarket with a few £ each for a card myself so they have something to give me.

I do get it OP but you know you’re being unreasonable. Today is no different than any other day really and your family is going through a traumatic time. Enjoy your day with your kids, do something nice like go to the park or see a movie p

Oops hit send too soon!

Or just spend the day at home doing nice things. Maybe treat yourself to a bottle of wine or a box of chocolates when the kids are in bed but most of all be there for your partner. He needs you right now and so do your dc x

This is the Relationships Board not AIBU, folks, get a grip! The OP knows she's being U, she's just feeling like shit and knows she can't offload it onto her OH so she's venting on here. That's what this site is for.

She's lost her own parents so that makes her feelings more understandable.

There are so many self-righteous pricks on here, get back to AIBU where you belong.

What a horrible situation for him especially as they weren't talking. My goodness he's got a lot on his plate.

Your 5 year old is old enough to give you a hug and wish you happy mother’s day. I’m a single parent so I took my DC to Tesco gave them both a fiver and a self scan zapper and waited at the door for them. They’ve been doing this since they were four or five.

Lizzie48, you’re right it’s not the AIBU board, but if you read it properly the OP clearly has that question in her question/topic title.

OP, i don’t think you’re a bad person for asking and I think people who are questioning that are wrong to. However, I do think it’s insensitive to question/think this- yes he is your partner but he may not open up to you 100% and may hold pain/feelings in. So it may be very hard for him.

Why don’t you do something nice for him? Yes, it’s shit timing but be your families strength at this time rather than have any thoughts about what you should have got.

I hope today goes well. Good luck (I mean that sincerely)

Jeez, are you the same poster who complained that her husband didn't want to go out for dinner on her birthday....which was also the day of his mother's funeral?!

I never saw that, @Psychobabble123 but the OP says her MIL died suddenly this week, so the funeral probably hasn't happened yet, or would have been a couple of days ago.

That would make her very selfish of course.

It was a couple of days ago and the funeral hadn't happened yet, the OP was wanting him to still take her out for dinner on her birthday despite it being the day of the funeral. She felt resentful that he hadn't spent much time with her lately

OMG your husbands mother died one week ago and you expect him to go out and get you mothers day cards from your under 6 year old children i had to go to work this morning and got one card from my three grown up children but its one day of the year which has just been turned into a money maker for companies and flower shops get over yourself and go support your grieving husband

It probably is the same poster in that case. You don't seem to care all that for your DH, OP. You need to think back to how you felt when your parents died and think about your DH now, he needs you.

Psychobabble123 I wondered that or the one who complained her MIL died on her birthday :(

Unbelievable!

So much nastiness. So sorry for your dh. Also sorry for you OpP. Keep a brave fa e in RL. Understandably you want to let of steam here. You haven't come across as a bad personal but apparently other upsets rs expect you to be a martyr.

Death brings out a range of feelings and emotions.

It's not an easy thing to deal with and not everyone behaves as you'd expect,

I'm sorry you've had a hard time here. Some people just like to stick the boot in.

Strange

On your other thread your ds is almost 10

Ooooh

Interesting..

I'm sorry but yes, YABU I wouldn't even be thinking about cards for myself in that situation