Mother's Day - a shout out to everyone who is going to have a tricky day

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Mother's Day can be difficult for so many people so I wanted to start a thread where we can vent, hand-hold and get through it together.

My mum has dementia and I won't be able to see her tomorrow. I've been a bit weepy all day thinking about the mum she was and the mum she is now.

Although she doesn't always remember who I am or our relationship, she is always pleased to see me and that life-long love shines through. She often asks if I'll leave my address so she can put me on her Christmas list and it breaks my heart.

Hi your post resonated with me so much my mum had dementia and died on Jan 22nd - treasure your mum and the pleasure she takes In seeing you dementia is such a cruel disease take care x

Thanks @gingersam

I'm normally really stoical about her dementia but Mothers Day has blind sided me this year. It feels self-indulgent to be grieving her when she is still here and loving me. I'll have a totally random chat on the phone with her tomorrow about whatever is is on her mind at that moment and I'll be grateful that I can.

Mum died last year. I'm very emotional at the moment

I might come and lurk in here tomorrow if it's a tough day

Sorry Tiredemma

Thank you for starting this thread, it’s so sad to read what everyone is going through but I’m glad we can go through it together.

My Mum has Alzheimer’s, she’s young but it’s now quite severe and I feel like this is my first year without her as my Mum. I can hardly recognise her anymore. My DF died last year after an illness and I just wish I could have a parent to talk to again.

My own DC are 2 and 5, beautiful sweet loving souls who adore life. I need to remember to be to them everything that I want a parent to be to me right now.

Thoughts and to all for tomorrow, just try to think that those posting the happy family pictures can’t understand what we are going through, but at least they are appreciating what they have and not taking each other for granted.

My mum died in 2001 after developing MS in the early 70s. I never really had a proper mum. MS prevented me from this. Big hugs to you all 😘

I really get what people are saying I’m a mum too and my daughter will want to spoil me but losing my own mum is so raw still; big love to all you out there struggling

Just to add to everyone and hope the day is going as well as it can.

Here because I could have written wonderwoman’s post word for word... been a year since I went NC with mum and although I know I’ve done the right thing, Mother’s Day still hurts. Keep asking myself why I don’t deserve a mum who loves and cares for me.... Have had a very stroppy DD today as well so struggling a bit.
Love and hugs to all of you xxxx