Mother's Day - a shout out to everyone who is going to have a tricky day

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Mother's Day can be difficult for so many people so I wanted to start a thread where we can vent, hand-hold and get through it together.

My mum has dementia and I won't be able to see her tomorrow. I've been a bit weepy all day thinking about the mum she was and the mum she is now.

Although she doesn't always remember who I am or our relationship, she is always pleased to see me and that life-long love shines through. She often asks if I'll leave my address so she can put me on her Christmas list and it breaks my heart.

I feel so conflicted on Mothering Sunday, mum died just over 2 years ago and it still feels wrong not to buy a card and speak to her on the day. On the other hand both DSs have made cards, DH has taken them to chose a gift etc.
to everyone who will find tomorrow for whatever reason.

My mums been dead for over 20 years and I miss as her every day, worse, of course on Mother's Day. When I'm shopping I look at things and think 'that's what I would've bought mum' or I look at places I would've like to have taken her for afternoon tea etc. 💐 For all of us on this Mother's Day....

Lost my darling mum 15 years ago and still miss her every day.

No DCs and just found out my exH's gf is pregnant.
This year's is going to be extra hard.

for everyone xx

This will be my first Mother's Day without my mum, she died last October. My thoughts are with you all.

I started this thread because I was feeling a bit sorry for myself. Now I am a just weeping for you all.

If I could send you all a huge bunch of flowers in real life I would.

I hope you all get through the day in the best way you can. Hopefully the knowledge that not everyone will be having a perfect day will help.

to you all. Mother's Day and my baby dd's birthday and anniversary coincided the year she died and this year again. This time three years ago she was dying but I didn't know. I was blissfully happy.

Thanks for starting this. Things tricky with my own Mum for various reasons but I will be seeing her. I always find Mother's Day tricky though without DD1. I have two other lovely DDs for which I am super grateful but all three should be here. People forget.

Wishing everyone a peaceful day whatever your personal situation. Much sadness so for all.

for you all.
I will be thinking of you all alot.

Another VLC after a childhood of neglect. I sent a bland card (so difficult to find one that doesn't say "love you so much" or "best mum ever") and I don't know if it will even have got there on time.

Spending tomorrow with DH and four generations of assorted in-laws who have functional if not perfect relationships. So that will be nice.

and as needed. Motherhood often isn't roses and fairy dust so the Hallmarking of it is distasteful at best.

I'll go and see mum and take her a card and gift
It's hard to find cards that don't gush about "amazing" "wonderful" mums
I tend to get ones just with a picture on
I got her an Emma Bridgewater mug with mum on
I will get berated for spending too much
She will talk about weather/my niece/won't ask how I am
Sigh
Oh well
I will get breakfast in bed, a homemade card and a bunch of flowers😁 lovely

Thank you for starting this thread.....my mam died last week and we haven't even had the funeral yet.

Every shop,every advert etc etc....finding it so hard

.....think of everyone x

Just been to Waitrose and everyone is parading around with cards and flowers for their mums 😾😾

My mum has stage 4 terminal cancer and had to be taken into the hospice today. Just know this is the last one I get to spend with her breaks my heart. I’m angry as I’m only 31, my DS is 15mo and we won’t get to see her grow wonderfully old and be the nanny she always wanted to be

💐 for you all. Such sadness on here. I hope tomorrow brings some peace for all of you in anguish about the day.

I won't see my Mum. She doesn't want to see me. I try throughout the year and am either ignored at the door when I know she's in, or asked 'why are you here soya?' 😞 I've sent some flowers and a note. She won't acknowledge them.

Thanks chaos - just don’t do what I did and cry when I went into the Marie Curie shop to give my donation. I give them a donation at Xmas, mums birthday and mother’s day in lieu of a present I would have bought.

I’m so sorry for those of you who have lost loved ones

Very difficult relationship with my mum. I’ve dropped her cards off today so I don’t have to go tomorrow and I can just have a lovely day at home with my DH and DD. I too found it difficult finding a card that wasn’t all gushy but I managed to thankfully.

@Youvegotafriendinme I'm right here with you, my dc are 2.5 and 3.5 months and dm died on Tuesday of terminal cancer. Didn't make it to the hospice as slipped into a coma before I could get a transfer.
I'm 23 and it's hard at any age I think but especially when your mum should be helping out with baby rather than the other way around.

My beloved mum died in August. Even though I have dc I'm dreading tomorrow. I just miss her so much.

I've told dh I don't want to go to a restaurant tomorrow - I can't face all the people out with their mum's.

As someone who was close to their late dm I don't get the problem with Mother's day really. I miss her and need her back everyday and anniversaries are just days. I think I may be weird but I find the sympathy a bit . Make the most of your DM if you still have her, enjoy the day and don't feel guilty.

I’m a mum and have my mum still but on mother’s day I think of all women who nurture others in whatever capacity, because that’s what we’re celebrating in my view

for all

Yes first one without my Mum who passed this winter. I miss her so much. Walking past banks of cards that I don't need to stop and choose from anymore hurts more than I ever thought it could. I miss her so much. Thoughts with everyone on this thread.
Thanks OP it is nice to know I'm not alone in feeling this way about MDay.

I have a tricky relationship with my DM, so I have mixed feelings about Mother's Day. I used to buy cards and see her out of duty, but I'm starting to see that my life is much happier when I'm not in contact with her.

I'm enjoying being a mum to my 2 DDs, though, and they love making cards for me, so it's given me a new meaning to Mother's Day.