Hey, I wondered if I’d be able to get some advice or support from any ladies out there who may have had a similar situation or even those who haven’t.
I’ve been with my boyfriend almost a year. I love him so incredibly much. When things are good, they couldn’t be much better. But when they’re not, I feel very alone in the relationship. Since the beginning of the relationship I’ve struggled to get emotion from him. There’s little affection - verbal or non-verbal, I usually have to be the one to facilitate.
I thought with encouragement & patience I’d be able to make him open up a bit more... this hasn’t been the case. He’s a bit older than me (24) but it feels like he’s much younger.
He avoids adult conversations & committing.
He’s moving with his family to the other side of the country - when I’ve asked about the future & how we’d make it work, he simply said “Idk”. Even getting basic affection from him is almost impossible unless I say things first.
When I’m at his place, he spends a lot of the time checking Facebook or playing games. Even small things like going on dates - I’ve always had to go the extra distance to meet him since he’s been disinclined to spend much money.
I’ve been trying so hard to be understanding - I know not all men find it easy to be emotionally literate. But it’s difficult being with a man who’s so unwilling to emotionally invest & commit.
Sometimes I think I could do better or date someone who appreciates me more. But the truth is, I love him despite his faults. I don’t want anyone else. I just wish I was prioritised by him & treated as though I’m actually in a relationship with him. I feel trapped because I love him and of course I want to be with him. But I find myself wondering whether I’m really going to get what I want from this relationship or from him