Should I meet up with him

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Recently started dating again and I’ve been chatting to someone I went to school with, he’s saying how he’s desperate to meet up etc and how about we go for a drink and suggested tomorrow.

I said I’m free Saturday and suggested a place in town to meet up.

He’s now saying he’s more into pub like places, I said okay we’ll decide where sometime this week then, now he’s saying he’s “conscious of seeing people he knows and them interrupting our conversation” .

We’ve been speaking for about 3 weeks and when we first started texting he said how the perfect date was watching movies

I haven’t met anyone new in years. What do you all think?

Sounds like he is angling to come to yours or vice Versa so you can watch films , i wouldn't entertain this for a first date. He needs to make an effort for one , two he could be a weirdo (despite knowing him from school) and you're putting yourself in a risky situation.

If he likes films so much suggest cinema followed by a drink? Xx

I think he's got a girlfriend whose friends don't frequent local pubs but he's still a bit scared incase they happen to so he's trying to cadge an invite round yours to watch movies with his 'I'm worried people will interrupt our conversation' thing.

Yep, he doesn't want to be seen with you.

Sounds more like he is married and does not want the locals to see him!

Oh dear 😂. I said are you embarrassed to be seen with me or something, he said “no I’d be showing you off 😉 I’d just rather get to know you first before going out drinking?”

He suggested going for a drink

He has an ulterior motive. Don’t know what, but he does!

How did you get in contact again?

He's either got a gf/wife or he doesn't want to fork out on a date... perhaps he wants to fast track to your bedroom!

I’m thinking he’s after sex.
I said what are you thinking of doing then?

He said “I just want to meet you and get to know you, I think your lovely and I hope you think the same of me”

If he wants to get to know you before 'going out drinking', tell him to drink coke.

I agree with the others, he's scared of being seen in public with you by somebody he knows.

I said I’m not sure what to suggest then.

He said “anything from a cuppa or having food”

“A cuppa” at mine is it

Failing I didn’t think of that might say that 😂

Tell him that you've watched too many episodes of csi to be inviting him to yours (or you going to his) and you'd be ok going to a meal instead (if he doesn't want to drink) and you can always tell any interrupters to F off (in the nicest poss way obvs)

He seems to have an issue when you suggested meeting Sat instead of Tuesday - often easier to get out on a weekday if you have a gf or are married than a Saturday. Even if he is single, all the nonsense about people he knows interrupting you - surely there are a number of pubs so get him to pick the one where he has no friends or does he have hundreds of friends all waiting to interrupt?
All rather odd and whatever the explanation, it would put me off OP. Watching films on a first date is not conducive to chatting and reaquainting. It is, however, cheap and means that you will not be seen together.

He's up to something by the sounds of it.

Yeah whatever the situation is it’s put me off. He’s saying he did want a drink but not a night out.

I never once said a night out just mentioned a place in town not a club!

Wouldn't even be considering meeting up with someone who was talking like this. He has a partner or is embarrassed to be seen with you or just wants sex from you or is a prize twat who genuinely believes going round someone's house is an acceptable first date. Possibly a combination of the above.

Stop wasting your time.

He’s either in a LTR or married, none of what he’s saying makes any sense. I think you’ll be a one & done.

God, he just wants to come round to yours, for you to give him drinks and a shag. That's the first date - it wouldn't get any better!

Just block him he is definitely not being straight with you.

He wants to 'Netflix and chill'.
That's all he's after by the sounds of it

nope. fishy and/or a bit weird or just dragging out the messaging and won't commit to actually meeting up. Just name a quiet pub somewhere and if he doesn't bite give it up!

Well if he wants a cuppa he can meet you in a coffee shop one day. What he means is he wants to come to your place. Be adamant as he sounds like he’s not going to change his mind.

Definitely attached or just after a shag.

Wouldn't waste your time OP

He just sounds slippery, moving the goalposts a couple of times.. I just couldn't be bothered. He's hard work before a first date!

There's no reason to oppose your suggestions and weird seeing as he suggested them.

What or who is he trying to avoid?

Sounds suspect. Is he an old man wanting a cuppa.

My moneys on him having a wife or GF.