Think ex is lying about cancer

[Whiskeyqueen]

Bit of back story.. I broke up with my ex 2 years ago. He was violent, controlling and just generally all round abusive. We have two children together that he sees at the weekend. I am now with someone else and we have a child together, everything is fine in my new relationship but ex is relentless in trying to stop it ( multiple calls to ss, badmouthIng boyfriend to our children etc)

So ex rang me Tuesday afternoon to say he had a phone call to get to the hospital urgently, apparently he had a mri scan a few months ago and they'd found an anomaly. They were even going to send him there in a ambulance. I smelt a rat but gave him the benefit of the doubt.
He rang at 7 to say he'd had on test done but needed some more and the doctors were hinting towards it being cancer in his brain and lungs
He then rang at 11 to say all was fine it was just a lump
He rang today when a friend was round so I put the phone on speaker so she could hear and he came out with all sorts of stuff about how he'd had to have lots of different blood tests, swabs taken from his mouth armpits and even bum crack . He also said that although these 'lumps' didn't seem 'dangerous' they could turn into something and the doctor recommended he try not to get stressed out or do anything that could raise his blood pressure. He also got abit upset that I'm not being supportive.
He's now just rang again(!) To say the lump on his brain is an anurism and he needs to have a operation on Monday at a different hospital. He keeps saying that if he does die atleast he'll be out of my hair.
What the hell am I meant to make of all this? He has form for lying such as the time he tried to convince me Brian harvey from E17 was his uncle to his secret cocaine habithe but this takes the biscuit.

I'd actually believe the Brian Harvey claim, because he's not exactly an icon one would be proud to call Uncle. But the rest reads like attention-seeking bullshit.

Sandy you are missing the point. The ruling is for the rights of the children, to see their father. Sometimes the wrong decision is made and it's worth going back to court.
Everything the OP has posted about his behaviour is abusive. If he is lying about being seriously ill and messes with his children's heads like this, just to get to you, then it is absolutely worth seeing a solicitor and challenging the existing arrangements.
God knows what he is saying to them when you are not there.

If you haven't already OP, please keep copies of all his texts/emails.

IWannaSeeHowItEnds

I'm not missing the point. You asked why she lets him see the children. I said because he has a right to see...as proved and ruled in court.

Whether he is a good father or not is another issue...but he has a right to see his children.

The OP doesn't really have an issue with his parenting.

If you don't understand my point..lets leave it there and not derail the thread.

Not all parents have a right to see their children and some have supervised access only. I think the poster was just questioning why he had such a free hand given his past and his current behaviour. We don't know whether the OP has a problem or not with his "parenting" she doesn't really say much on this.

And courts do change their rulings ...

I understand you perfectly Sandy. I just think you are wrong. Rights are for children, rather than parents. The court ruling was made with the view that it was in their best interests. But courts can make the wrong choice.
It's not derailing a thread to say I would put a stop to access if I thought he was damaging my children. OP will have to go back to court to do so, but in her shoes this is what I would do, esp in the light of recent events.
Even in normal circumstances, access every weekend is unfair unless that is an arrangement which suits both parties.

Very odd about the ambulance.

I'm having checks and some they have to rule out cancer. If they suspect cancer it comes in the 2 weeks rule but if they don't expect cancer it doesn't.

I've just had pre op checks - blood, urine and swabs from nostrils and top of leg by groin - men might have slightly different ones - they are for MRSA. Mine were done 2 weeks pre op. MRI wouldn't normally take a few months to come back. It's strange some details are odd but some are quite plausible - I wonder if he's having some checks but exaggerating reports of his imminent death or got himself in a panic. Hard to say but I would just concentrate on looking after you and the kids and leave him to it given his violent past.

I have an Ex like this, he told the DC several years ago he was dying, to which the eldest said "Can I have your telly then?" He's still trying to milk it but it's wearing a bit thin after nearly a decade

Wow I think he needs a psyche review as well as testing his poo for cancer markers whilst blue lighting him to hospital after seeing 7 week old MRI results - .....

MyBrilliantDisguise

thank you.. still no results.. it's a knee injury and likely less of a priority than other life threatening things

Cancer has a two week referral pathway. If they think it’s cancer they wouldn’t have left an anomaly for months.