Partner wanking in his sleep...

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Right, I have been with my partner 4 years. Sex 4-5 times a week, no problems whatsoever. Though about once or twice a month dp wakes me up masturbating in his sleep. He has no recollection of me nudging him asking wtf? In the early hours and no memory of any sexy dreams. I honestly believe this is subconscious but he is mortified. Any ideas or experience on this.

Mortified cause he's waking you up or mortified cause he's wanking?

Mortified he's doing it in his sleep. Like really embarrassed

What advice would you give your best friend ( If it was a woman ), masturbating in her sleep !?

It sounds to me as though this is an issue for you that you're dressing up as an issue for him.

If he's asleep it's a bit of a non issue isn't it? I don't really understand why this is a problem.

It's annoying that it interrupts your sleep but I think it's a non issue.

How do you know you don’t do it?

It sounds to me as though this is an issue for you that you're dressing up as an issue for him

This. He's embarrassed because you've told him. There was no need to bring it up, hes not doing any harm. Clearly its you with the issue, not him.

I can assure you he's bothered. I would be bothered if he was consciously hanging one of against my back but once it became clear he had been asleep I felt bad for bringing it up. I did say just enjoy it just don't make a mess on me :-)

Stop shaming him.

I don't see an issue with it

Tell him to wear underpants with tight pyjamas.

I don't see the problem to be honest, just leave him to it.

Am I the only one who can understand why this poor guy is worried and embarrassed? What if he fell asleep on the train, or the sofa and it started then?? I'd be worried if I were him. OP do you have a decent GP? Maybe ask him to see the GP with a referral to a sleep consultant in mind?

I've been told that I make weird noises in my sleep...moaning , groaning and basically sounding like I'm being rogered senseless . I try to make sure i don't fall asleep on the bus etc. but there's not much I can do. We just laugh about it ... Make sure he knows you're not annoyed and he might not be so embarrassed.

I kind of think it's cute. At least he feels very safe when he's sleeping.

Aww that's nice, Yea it is sweet really he's only really worried that he might start groping me in his sleep. The odd night wank is nothing really, obviously, in the grand scheme of things.

And a for shaming him, I'm really not. There is nothing to be ashamed of. You wouldn't say your dp "were you wanking last night or were you asleep"

Any normal person I am sure would want to know, it's not shaming, it's informing! I'd still not like it though; yuck.

Gently turn him over so his back is facing you.....

If it isn’t a problem, great, tell him.......

If it’s a problem for you, after explaining it isn’t really wrong and it’s human nature, and millions of people probably do it, tell him, you personally, have an issue with it as it disturbs your sleep, etc, etc.

All good :-)

I used to do this, I might still but there’s no one to tell me.
My exH got really pissed off about it cause he thought I was awake.
Once he realised I was asleep he chilled out a bit about it.
Invariably it went with a very horny dream and very deep sleep.

I feel jealous. If I ever have dreams involving sex it always ends unfinished.

I think it's pretty awful that you've even confronted him about this. He's asleep, doing something totally natural that doesn't harm you in any way. I feel terrible for him that he's been made to feel so embarrassed and shameful.

Saves you a job!! 😂😂

My dh does this.
It only bothers me when he wakes me up so I just hold his nose and he stops and goes back to sleep.