I just told BF I never want to see him again

[Nolongerwithauser]

I'm so fucking angry and I'm shaking with rage but he thinks I'm being massively unreasonable.

Massive backstory that I've posted about before. Been with DP two years and he has an ex that won't let go of him. When we got together she really was pretty awful about me, really didn't want us to be together (they are still friends) said I had a personality disorder (I don't). She ended up removing him as a friend on FB as she 'couldn't handle seeing him do lovely things with her' her words. Didn't see or speak to each other much for a year.

Fast forward to October last year and DP started having a rough patch and low and behold, she appears as his FB friend. Messages start between them and basically she has started buying him to work at her house. Loads of pathetic little jobs, which he lied to me about twice. Said he wasn't there, found out he was. I was angry about him lying so we split for a few weeks but got back together.

This weekend was kind of the last straw. He said he was working there this Sat afternoon for 3 hours, 2-5pm. We'd had a bit of an argument on Thursday night as he said he had no joy in his life after us taken him away, all expenses paid, the weekend before. So he left my house on Thursday night at 11pm. I felt like he engineered this argument if I'm honest.

Saturday he ignored me and finally got in touch at 8pm after knowing I'd need a lift to the hospital to see emergency GP at 10pm. I told him to fuck off, drive myself there, bleeding heavily as I've got a condition with my womb. In loads of pain.

Anyway he came round last night and we worked it out. He said he was only going there for the money etc.

Fast forward to today, I got sent home from work with my illness and he phoned me at 5pm and said 'I'm not coming round tonight, I'm working at ex's'.

So I lost it and told him to fuck off. He popped in and we had a shouting match, basically he's saying he doesn't care if she's got feelings for him, he needs to do all this work for her for the money. However it makes me feel doesn't matter. AIBU?

Bet who is pregnant? I'm certainly not!

I did the freedom project. Seems I need to to do it again...

I don't think he's shagging her either, but what's happening is he's going round there to smoke weed with her and you're financing and enabling both of them doing that. You sound like a great person, OP, a good mum, relative and friend, so please stop letting these arseholes abuse your nice nature. He doesn't want you, he wants the lifestyle.

She'll have been filling his head with how hes so fantastic and such a great person while filling his pockets with weed money. Thats why he keeps going back.

He's using her op the same way he has used you, he will move on and replace you
With another meal ticket. When she comes to her senses or if she does, then he'll move on again.

He's allowed to do this, because women let him do it, why should he change? He's got a cushy number. 💐

Urgh, it feels sickening. I can't believe he uses people in this way. What a disgusting man.

"Weed addict"?

Just no.

Hang onto that feeling of being sickened, OP, so when he comes smarming back to try and talk you round again, your resolve won't weaken. It's time to stop being his meal ticket.

Also, when he tells you he's only going round to his ex's "for the money", you can bet your bottom dollar he's saying the same to her about you.