SO has invited a friend to stay while we are on holiday

[Elm1524]

Hi there
I just wanted to ask you all about a situation SO has currently put me in.
We go on holiday in around a months time for two weeks and yesterday SO was telling me how he had been speaking to his friend and he has said she can stay at our place whilst we are on holiday as she still lives with her parents and is having a hard time with them at the minute.
I have quite a few issues with so many aspects of this but just wanted to ask your opinion on whether or not I’m being crazy about having these thoughts on the matter.

1. SO’s friend isn’t in a relationship and is known to get around the block a little bit...concerned that she will be bring numerous guys back to our bed we sleep in every night.
2. somebody coming into our little nest and using everything whilst we are away feels weird to me but don’t know if I’m just overreacting.
3. I know SO would of said yes just because he wants to help everyone but I’m a bit annoyed that he never discussed it with me first considering this is the place we built together.

I’ve never really liked this friend In the years we have been in a relationship; I’ve never really shown that as this is SO’s really good friend and he has known her since he was a kid....I don’t want this to cloud my judgement so I wanted to ask your opinions on it before I speak to him about it.
Any opinions?

Nope. I would hate to have someone stay in my house while I was away. All my personal things, everything the way I like it. I couldn't relax on holiday.

I wouldn’t want this at all.

If you have security cameras so can see what’s going on I’d let her, but you need a serious discussion with oh about he needs to ask you. In this case he can go back and say no, or he can go back and say you can’t have anyone else stay, we don’t want strangers In our house. And if you see her bring someone home I’d ask a friend to visit and ask her to leave , leaving your keys behind. If he’s not willing to risk that he can just say no.

Maybe one of the reasons why she doesn’t get on with her parents is because they don’t like her bringing random men back hence she could be doing a fair bit if that in your place.

Is your SO peed off that your spare bedroom is full of your brother’s stuff and he feels it’s his turn to be “generous” with the house?

SO has never minded the furniture being there because we never really got round to decorating the room or particularly using it, we did speak about it before hand.
Her parents have no idea about the goings on as she won’t bring men back to her parents, she would rather do it on backs of vans and in the great outdoors than have her parents find out (we are talking about a woman of 35 here not a 18 year old [blush )
I spoke to SO last night and I said no way do I want her in the house while we are away and that if she is there I’ll know as soon as a camera notification pops up on my phone and it would absolutely kill the holiday for me. SO said he would tell her today as she was busy out with a “date” last night.
Every woman has a partners friend they don’t like right?

YANBU. I would only let someone I 100% trusted do this. Plus the random guys - not the morality of that, but they could be thieves or trash the place. It does happen. (What is SO short for?)

SO was short for significant other, it’s my first post on the site and I’m quickly learning that others actually tend to use OH

Thanks. I was thinking special one which sounds a bit icky!!

Glad he's going to tell her. Hope you have a lovely holiday x