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Off-putting photos on dating sites!

113 replies

ExtraOnTheSide · 18/02/2018 19:35

of course there's the obvious ones - in full motor cycle gear.

But why the ones showing them when they're younger?

e.g. 50 year old man (not terrible looking), a few photos, fair enough. Then one - when he's 35 i.e. 15 years ago. Why would I want to see that? Some men even put photos of themselves when they were children Confused.

Sometimes I wonder ...

Still, I guess it saves time ...

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MozzchopsThirty · 18/02/2018 21:56

There's a lot of pics of men at the top of mountains (nearly always pen y fan 🙄)

Tops off - NO
you and your dog - NO
group photos - who are you
Pics with your children in - massively inappropriate
Toilet pics - why are there so many of these?
Pics outside a tent - nope
MAMIL - prick
Pics next to a car that's obvs not yours - why?

Bloodyuselessatthinkingofaname · 18/02/2018 23:14

When I was doing OLD I was matched with several men who were holding owls in their profile picture.TinselAngel

Thank you for making me laugh tonight !!!!

Bloodyuselessatthinkingofaname · 18/02/2018 23:18

The photos of them on a sex holiday in Thailand or the Philippines _ FFS

Itsjustmarley · 18/02/2018 23:19

When they only have ONE photo of them and either it's blurred or it's very model looking.
Photos with helmets on-how do I match with that.
Group photos - hoping it's the sexy friend but swipe to the next picture like it's some sort of lottery.
Photos that are taken from under their nose with them looking down slightly - great view.
Back photos!?
Profiles filled with just quotes - thanks for the inspiration

Ofthread · 18/02/2018 23:21

Omg, do people really put headless torsos?

Ofthread · 18/02/2018 23:22

The sex holiday is fine though, obviously...

Ofthread · 18/02/2018 23:22

I do think most people should just shut up the shop.

NellMangel · 18/02/2018 23:24

I'm on Match.com and see a lot of...
Topless
Lying in bed topless
Staring intently and unsmilingly at camera in serial killer style
Adopting dubious username like "fingerz"

crimsonlake · 18/02/2018 23:25

I agree with all the above, but also what is with many of the usernames?
Recently I was contacted by - boiled egg, how on earth is that supposed to be in any way appealing? I despair!

cod · 19/02/2018 06:22

Lolol at owl holders. Some weirdo messaged me (not on OLD) and his avi was him welding. Hmm

KerplunkChampion · 19/02/2018 07:00

@cod give the welder my details I love a good weld.

Lol at transformers.

worriedsouth · 19/02/2018 10:15

I went on to check out someone a friend had met and was horrified by some of the photos!

What would be an instant no from me:

Men holding huge fish
Pictures of children
Stating "School of hard knocks, university of life
Topless
A beer in every photo
Lycra
Filters
So many who look 10 years older than their stated age

Made me so glad I'm not looking!

Original poster
ExtraOnTheSide · 19/02/2018 10:28

NellMangel and Bloodyuseless and others made me smile :) I also don't understand the lying back in the bed topless thing for a man. Its just so sleazy!

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Zaphodsotherhead · 19/02/2018 10:38

As a semi-professional owl holder I can confirm that many of these men do, indeed, hold their owls wrongly.

Which doesn't give you much hope for them in real life, does it?

Heatherjayne1972 · 19/02/2018 11:08

Pics of them with their mum!
Oo sexy ( not)

StringOfGoldStars · 19/02/2018 11:19

Men who have clearly thought, "what sort of photo would attract me to a woman..?" and then recreate that image for themselves.

E.g.

Soapy in the bath with strategically placed bubbles. ooh, cheeky!

Lying naked in bed with 'come hither' eyes and a suggestively draped sheet.

A slightly demure pose with a half smile.

A coy "ooh you've just caught me..." expression.

The weird ones where theybtake a selfie of them, lying on their side, pretending to be asleep in bed. Wake up to this every morning?

Some of them made me shudder. So sexually off putting!

BatFacedGirl · 19/02/2018 11:27

I'm happily married so no idea why I'm reading this thread but I have a question!

What photos ARE acceptable?

StringOfGoldStars · 19/02/2018 11:29

Omg, do people really put headless torsos?

Yes. Usually the ones who don't want to be spotted by their wives'/girlfriends' friends...

Aridane · 19/02/2018 11:33

you and your dog - NO

What's wrong with man and dog photos?

Time40 · 19/02/2018 11:34

*When I was doing OLD I was matched with several men who were holding owls in their profile picture.

This led to me and the boyfriend I eventually met through the same website christening a certain type of people "owl holders".*

I love this! What's the type, though? I have to know what owl holders look like, etc.

NewYearNiki · 19/02/2018 11:36

I started a thread on this somewhere else, I got slightly flamed and asked what my problem was in posting at all. Apparently he hadnt done anything wrong.

I think I should have posted it here first.

I had been chatting to a guy on tinder for ages and he seemed nice. His photos were a bit strange as most of them had his face partially obscured like a selfie and only part of his face in the shot. There were about 2 photos where you could see all of him though.

When I got his mobile number I located his facebook and instagram. Then the penny dropped. He was obese if not morbidly so.

The obscured photos were to hide his triple chin and the full length photos I could see from Facebook were several years old.

It pissed me off as it's deliberately deceptive. I dont find morbid obesity attractive and would have bypassed him if he'd put accurate photos on of himself.

Apparently I shouldnt have been surprised based on the thread I started

RainyApril · 19/02/2018 12:18

Oh god I'm about to embark on old and can see myself committing some of these crimes.

The only photos that already exist of me are with my children, dog or friends.

The only photos where I'm alone have been taken because I'm doing something a bit unusual - not dissimilar to owl holding.

There are no photos of just me, sitting about, doing nothing because why would I ever have thought to take a photo of that?

So now it seems I need a portfolio of old photos, but I can't take selfies because that's frowned on, so I have to face the embarrassment of asking a friend to take photos of me, presumably over several days, wearing different outfits, flattering but not deceptive, feeling like a right gurning posing lemon?

It's a minefield. I might just not bother.

murphys · 19/02/2018 12:38

I took a screenshot which I accidently deleted, of a guys profile picture... his wedding day with his wife Hmm sitting on his knee.

And why is there always a bloke in a kilt with no top on. Its not like I even live anywhere close to Scotland, I am not even in the same hemisphere in fact. And I only have a 50km radius filter.....

Any picture that looks too good to be true, usually is. Skydiving, white water rafting, all sort of action shots.... not one of these shots you see a face. Then there always one of a bloke in a limo....

The others no's are fish, kids, and what seems to be ex partners cut off....

CandleWithHair · 19/02/2018 12:42

Owl holders! Grin I’ve not seen many of them, plenty of fish and drugged large cats tho.

I really don’t understand men who choose a selfie that essentially looks like a mug shot for their profile. Smile for gawds sake! Actually, I learned the hard way on a date this weekend why this might be the case - the guy had TERIBBLE teeth

Any sort of selfie taken at an angle to make it look like it’s not a selfie - the “oh I didn’t realise you were taking a photo of me” pose. Come on, I’m not stupid.

Zaphodsotherhead · 19/02/2018 12:48

When I was OLD I never minded the ones of blokes with their dogs.

I've got dogs. I need to know a man can cope.