Separate bedrooms

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Do any of you do this and are happy? My parents have slept in separate rooms for as long as I can remember and have been married 32 years.

I am pretty tempted by a bed to myself I have to say. What are the perks?

We have separate rooms with visiting rights

He's an early bird, I am a night owl and we both snore.

I reckon having our own rooms is the reason we've been happily married for nearly 30 years.

We do this. I love it. DP not so much but as he is the duvet stealing arm flailing snorer he can't say too much. Hate holidays and staying at other people's houses when I'm actually expected to share the marital bed as it were.

We have separate rooms with visiting rights

Same here.

We have been together for nearly 25 years so it works for us.

DH is a very light sleeper, and is easily disturbed. I toss and turn a lot, and got fed up of worrying about not waking him.

We both like having our own space.

We do it as DH has terrible insomnia. It got to the stage where he was finding it harder to get back to sleep for fear of waking me, and I couldn't sleep because I was worrying about him not being able to sleep. We were both tired and grumpy all the time. We both sleep well in our own beds. There are a few downsides though. I worry that the DC will grow up with strange ideas about bedsharing, I think we would be more intimate if we slept in the same bed and it is a pain on holidays because we either have to book somewhere with an extra room or share which means neither of us sleep well as we aren't used to it.

I'm a early bird and my partner is a night owl and goes to sleep around 4am so he sleeps on the sofa to not wake me up coming to bed plus he snores. He comes to bed for some 'adult' time 😉

We have separate houses and it suits us both fine! I may possibly have just spent the most amazing afternoon at his house

Bed at 4am??

Yeah he has insomnia

Those who do sleep apart can I ask how old you are? I'm 30, dh 37. I slept in the spare room last night (and dd2 climbed in ) but it was soooo nice. I didn't hear his snoring, he didn't wake me up when he came to bed (always 2-3hours after me). Sod it im spare bedding again

My pil have separate rooms as they both snore so loud they walk each other up. That makes them happy

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I would love my own bedroom but we don't have the space. I'm convinced we would get on better because I would sleep better and feel less hemmed in.

I’m not sure why anyone who has the space wouldn’t want this. Bliss

We sleep in separate rooms because we have two young children who don’t sleep so we take a divide and conquer approach. I do hope that some day we might share a bed again but at the same time I do quite enjoy the space

One snores the other 'jiffles' and moans so 2 rooms is the only way!
Holidays are more stressful of course when having to share.

I kept getting up and sleeping on the sofa because of dh snoring. Months of this went by. Eventually got referral to sleep clinic and he doesn't have apnea but tried out machine and lasted a day. Got another referral for a mouth guard thing, appt got cancelled and he's never followed up.
He really did not want seperate rooms but if he wasn't prepared to try then tough. (I had earplugs as well). Can't say we are intimate now though but also other factors with that including health and teenagers that go to sleep later than us!

If we had room I'd do it for sure.
The snoring is coming between us right now.
DH frequently ends up on the sofa 😬.

If I had a fourth bedroom I would definitely do this as snoring is a huge problem and I am currently averaging 2-3 hours sleep a night

DH and I are in our sleep separately due to his snoring, later bed time and me being a very light sleeper. I need my sleep!

My dp and I are early twenties, we sleep in separate rooms most of the time, we have a 6 month old who I cosleep with though so he sleeps in the spare room. Although when he comes into bed with me I hate to admit but I don't sleep well at all and am awake wishing he had slept in the spare room. I don't really like covers on me and he's like a furnace sleeping next to me as it is never mind with covers over me too. He like to cuddle up when he shares our bed but I hate it again I get too hot and claustrophobic. But it's not often he wants to so I deal with it. Him and the baby sleep like logs and im awake plotting murder haha

It's not uncommon. My nana and papa slept in separate rooms my auntie and her husband sleep in separate rooms. I like my space and my dp although would probably like to share a bed more respects that so we compromise.

Dh and I have had seperate rooms since my mid twenties. Snoring, shift work and differing body clocks promoted it and now we couldn’t go back. We both like our own space.

We do. Married 20 years, both in our 50's......I love it.

Reading this is so reassuring for me. We sleep separately due his atrocious snoring. I also find sleeping away from home hard as I don't really sleep when we have to share a room.
We're late 30's and have been married for nearly 10 years.

We're moving and our new house has a spare room, I'm making it nice for dh

Agree with these posts. Adopted separate rooms following a major operation I had which brought on menopause and disrupted sleep patterns plus DH snores. Best decision ever made as has given us much needed personal space. I used to delay going to bed to get space but now I go to bed and get my precious privacy. I guess if you want intimacy you have to make sure that happens. I don't like going away so much now if we have to share a room. My parents had separate rooms since my teens and they were married 45 years. Can't imagine sleeping any other way now. I've never slept better.