Separate bedrooms

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Do any of you do this and are happy? My parents have slept in separate rooms for as long as I can remember and have been married 32 years.

I am pretty tempted by a bed to myself I have to say. What are the perks?

Yes, separate rooms here. It started when we were have some marital discord, but we worked on that and we're ok-ish again. I'm never sharing a bed again though, it's total bliss being all by myself. I go to his room for sex, and leave him with the damp patch and go back to my nice, warm, dry bed.

We are 29 and 31 and have separate rooms. It started when I was pregnant with DS2 and has continued. I love it if only I could get the children out my bed too now...

I’m 33, DP 35 and we sleep separately! He was a bloody horrendous snorer so slept most nights on the couch, turns out he had enlarged tonsils, he had them removed but then I got pregnant and the child has never slept unless with me.......fast forward 2yrs and we’re in seperate bedrooms, DS with me. I should have transitioned back to the marital bed but to be honest, the thought of my DP farting, sweating and groping me isn’t very appealing! But, I wouldn’t say it’s a joint decision, he wants me back in bed, I don’t see what the issue is, we sleep better separately. I do need to get my son to sleep on his own at some point though, preferably before he’s 16 😂

We have completely different sleep patterns and DH away every week so now we have separate rooms. I love having my own bed sleep great and like others hate sleeping over elsewhere. I could probs compromise on single beds that push together !?!?

Great thread glad I’m not the only weirdo

But how did you have the first conversation? I'd quite like to move into the spare room but not really sure how to broach it.....

Ours was a bit more organic started as spare room when DH was catching an early flight getting up at 3am or whatever. Then sharing bed uncomfortably when he was home and in the end it was a mutual kind of thing. You could start the ball rolling with I’m restless will spend the night in spare room see how he reacts. I’ve never liked sharing a bed if I’m honest with anyone :-)

When DH and I slept apart for a long time (due to my snoring)
I did some research
around 1/3 of couples regularly sleep apart

good sleep = good relationship
simple

Mid thirties, we’ve slept apart since we could afford a two bedroom rather than a one bedroom flat.
He snores, I’m a light sleeper, it’s a bad combination. I was always tired and ratty.
This way is much better, although it does means less spontaneous morning cuddling, which I miss.

We sleep apart; I'm 32, he's 37.
Moved in together last September into a two bedroom flat so we could have separate bedrooms. All my stuff is in my room and all his in his room so it's obvious we don't share a room!

I get up at 6am for work 3 days a week so I don't disturb him on those days but we only share when we have guests.

I love sleeping on my own and so does he. We both sleep better apart.