Anxierty Disorder

[mm2one]

Hello, I posted a while ago about my issues with my wife and her emotional affair.

www.mumsnet.com/Talk/relationships/3147338-Emotional-Affair

It has been about 1 month. We seem to have talked it out and she has reassured me it was not what I thought it was and has re-assured me that everything is fine between us. I don't want to bring it up anymore because I don't want to make her feel bad and make her cry at work or cry at all anymore.

But for whatever reason, I am still dealing with this. I can't explain it. Last week I was full of anxiety at work all week long. The only thing I can do is excersize to get the constant anxiety in my stomach to go away.

I started to see a counselor independently and that seems to have helped a bit. I will be seeing the counselor again this Saturday.

What is happening to me. Why am I now under constant anxiety about my marriage and my relationship with my wife. I have never been link this ever in my entire 20+ year relationship with her. I am constantly uneasy and slightly suspicious of her.

Any advice on how to get out of this funk and over this and go back to being my self again.

In what way is it not what you thought it was? How has she figured that out?

Everything isnt fine between you. She cant just tell you it is.

You are anxious about your relationshio because you have been betrayed, and the trust hasnt been built back up yet. It may or may not be. Is she taking steps to regain it?

Keep exercising. It really helps you get out of your own head, manage your anxiety, and improve your self esteem/self-worth. All needed after a kick in the teeth like you've had.

She took one look at a google search and said, "no thats not it!". She said she rarely seems the person.

The councilor says the anxiety might be my own guilt for wrongly accusing her of the affair. Though we havent spoken yet of the event. All she did was give me tips of how to think positively about my children, my life, and my wife.

The anxiety is a little better this week. But it's still there. On the bright side, i have lost probably 10 or 15 lbs due to lack of appetite so I look good.

I am just wondering, is this normal or do I need to up the ante and see a psychiatrist if the counselor doesn't help.
We were at a party the other weekend and I kept looking over every time she was alone and spoke to another man. It's so strange, i have been been like this in my life.

I dont want to keep re-hashing the same things with my wife because I don't want to make her cry.

"It's so strange, i have been been like this in my life. "

I meant to write, "i have never been like this in my life". Maybe a long long time ago when we were dating. But never like this. I feel like I am a shell of my former self.