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My partner has chlamydia!! Help?

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Miabluesky · 15/02/2018 16:33

Hello,
(won't let me post in Sex section)
Please help me figure this out.
My childs father told me this morning that he got a positive chlamydia test.
I have recently had two periods in a month, belly ache and had strange symptoms that I blamed on stress.

The clinic can't fit me in till tomorrow but I'm pretty positive I have it too

My question is,
Should I worry about my 1 year old? I thought they tested you during the routine checks during pregnancy?
If that's not true. What will happen? Did I pass it to her?

I was all clear at the time (unless they missed chlamydia) so does that mean that my partner cheated on me since she was born but is lying about being faithful?

He says one of us must have caught it 3 years ago before we got together from an ex.
But it doesn't make sense if I was clear a year and 9 months ago.

Or did I somehow catch it? I work as a masseuse and touch people all day long.

Thank you,
Sorry about all the questions. It's a confusing disease.

OP posts:

MyBrilliantDisguise · 15/02/2018 17:48

It doesn't just mean he's cheated, it means he's cheated without using a condom. That's unforgivable.

Beansonapost · 15/02/2018 17:49

He's cheated on you @Miabluesky... and passed on an STI.

You now need to decide how you want to proceed from here.

Janel85 · 15/02/2018 17:49

What pp’s said, pretrnd you were tested before and clear. See what he says then

NewSingleMummy · 15/02/2018 17:49

This definitely sounds like he has cheated only and told you because he had too.

I hope everything goes well tomorrow at your appointment

englishnose · 15/02/2018 17:50

They asked me if I wanted to be tested for it (I was 24) they did the blood ones routinely (HIV syphillis etc)
I thought that if a baby was born with chlamydia from the mother, it effected their eyes and mouth? I have no idea if that's something that would be obvious from a visual check up.

dirtybadger · 15/02/2018 17:53

Did he go to a gum clinic? Did he mention he was going before? Its sort of weird just to visit the GP without telling your DP (unless you had a chronic condition which you were there frequently for). Even weirder to not mentiom symptoms and visit to a gun clinic. It seems suss that he didnt mention it before going....

dirtybadger · 15/02/2018 17:54

@englishnose OP has said she has checked re baby and mentioned the eye infection.

englishnose · 15/02/2018 17:55

Ugh sorry. Missed all that, Massive delay posting... hope you're okay though

Thebluedog · 15/02/2018 18:01

I’d be very tempted to call his bluff and tell him you were tested during pregnancy and you were clear.

If you both have symptoms now chances are it’s a recent sti and not something that you’ve both had for 3 years

SleepFreeZone · 15/02/2018 18:10

He’s cheated.

DotCottonDotCom · 15/02/2018 18:11

I'm with Thebluedog on this one.

Call his bluff.

FluffyFerrets · 15/02/2018 18:14

I'm sorry you're going through this and I hope both you and your little one are both clear.
I'm with many others that think this is a recent infection. I can't quite grasp why he would feel an issue in his testicles then immediately decide to visit GUM clinic.
I've had a few exes that have had pain/issues in that area and as far as I'm aware their 1st thoughts were not to go tested.
My Dp tells me if he so much has an itchy ball so I'm 100% certain he wouldn't think of taking himself off to be tested without first telling me he was going or visiting the gp first. It makes no sense whatsoever that the 1st thing he thinks of is STD unless he KNOWS there's a risk that he has one.
I'd also be tempted to call his bluff too about being tested in pregnancy but do it face to face.

Thebluedog · 15/02/2018 18:16

I just asked my dp what he’d do and he said he tell me then go to the docs for a check up. His first thought would be testicular cancer rather than an sti

Pomeranio9834 · 15/02/2018 18:18

DP has been complaining of a sore testicle lately. Telling me everytime it hurt, making me feel it And look at it. Intently.

He called the GP to make an appointment today and told me he has an appointment. He certainly hasn't even considered nipping to the GUM clinic as an STI coukdnt even be a possibility

Karigan1 · 15/02/2018 18:25

My partner had a sore penis recently. He told me first and I had the ‘pleasure’ of looking at it lol and then he went to the gp. It was an allergy in the end btw but the point being he didn’t head straight to gum!

mindutopia · 15/02/2018 18:26

And yes, it's very unlikely you passed it to your baby. The symptoms are pretty immediate in babies after birth (it can lead to blindness). If you had it and passed it to her, you would have known that by now. So I don't think you need to worry about her, thankfully. Hope you find out soon and can at least get yourself treatment if you need it. It's very straightforward, especially since you hopefully have caught it very early. Sorry you're going through all of this.

Namechangegamechange123 · 15/02/2018 18:32

I’ve namechanged for this.

A few weeks ago, DP mentioned he thought he’d caught thrush from me. The thrush wasn’t clearing up properly and I suddenly had a panic that I’d had an infection years ago laying dormant all this time. My GP doesn’t deal with these things if there are any symptoms, you have to go to the GUM clinic.

But the difference is, I talked to DP about, I freaked out, I told him I was going for a check up to be safe and put my mind at ease.

Firstly, they don’t give you the results from chlamydia test there and then. It’s a 1-2 week wait.
So if he went yesterday, he wouldn’t know yet.

They tested me and I’m waiting, but they have said I have B.V - not sexually transmitted, quite a common infection that I’m now on antibiotics for, she said I might have had thrush before that passed to DP and my symptoms now have been BV rather than thrush.

Anyway.
I think you need to get a test. I don’t think he’s being honest with you at all.
I wonder if he was tested 1-2 weeks ago secretly, didn’t tell you, has now got the result back and it’s positive so he’s now had to tell you hence saying he just dropped in yesterday and was told he had chlamydia? It doesn’t work like that.

ChickenMom · 15/02/2018 18:38

Go see your sexual health clinic and get all the details. I’d put money on him cheating :( tell him you were tested during pregnancy and were all clear so where has he got it from? Also if you are all clear now then don’t let himnear you again because he’s definitely been messing around

sirlee66 · 15/02/2018 18:39

Agree with PP tell him you were clear during pregnancy so know he has cheated. See what he says

onemorecakeplease · 15/02/2018 18:47

You do get chlamydia results straight away.

I had bleeding during pregnancy and they tested me and told me it was negative straight away.

Also a friend had it at uni and I went with her, she got a positive result while she was still in the clinic room.

Namechangegamechange123 · 15/02/2018 19:10

onemore
That’s interesting, maybe that means mine was clear then?! She just said tested positive for BV and anything ‘more sinister’ will come back in 1-2 weeks so assumed chlamydia was in the ‘more sinister’ category.

ltsmash · 15/02/2018 19:12

@Namechangegamechange123 re the 1-2 weeks thing that is simply not true. The clinic i goto will text you your results in 4-6 hours. While some clinics can take upto a week, ive never heard of one that takes longer then that.

Namechangegamechange123 · 15/02/2018 19:16

itsmash
I was there yesterday, I had some results back right then, but was told by the nurse I would have the rest of the results in 1-2 weeks.

It may not be your experience but that doesn’t mean it doesn’t vary area to area!

FancyNewBeesly · 15/02/2018 22:22

My DH had testicular Pain a few years ago - he went to the GP because it would never occur to him to go and get checked for STD since we’ve been together over 10 years and were both tested at the start. I say he’s full of shit - if he’s been faithful for three years, sudden symptoms would not send you running to the GUM clinic.

I had a really strange issue when I was pregnant and I got my DH to look at it, then went to the doctor.

If I were you, I would be going and getting checked for absolutely everything ASAP. I’m sure your baby is fine but if you test positive they can check to be safe. At least chlamydia is very treatable but can impact fertility longer term if left untreated

DiscotequeJuliet · 15/02/2018 22:43

His whole response seems very suspect.

Good luck at the clinic tomorrow

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