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Husbands opinion on mini pill

29 replies

fridayrain · 14/02/2018 19:48

Stopped taking my pill when i was really bad with the flu, just cos I was so wiped out. So i then decided to stay off it to see how i got on (for various reasons - mood, skin, sex drive etc). However my skin started getting really bad again and i was in awful form so decided to start again. Had been off for about 3/4 weeks at this stage and didn't have any bleeding. I started again about 10days ago and all day have had the most excruciating cramps. A few hours ago i have had a light pinkish bleed but has since stopped. So obviously am wondering about that.

Anyway my husband says that its not right for my body not to have a period and that i should come off it, have a period and then go back on.

He seems to think it all builds up and that if i let my body have one then it's like some form of release and will reset my body.

Does anyone agree with this?

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dementedpixie · 14/02/2018 19:54

No, because the womb lining won't have built up due to the pill which is why you would normally get a period. I had no periods with the mini pill and none with the mirena coil either

gryffen · 14/02/2018 19:56

The pill is taken daily and if your off it for 3-4 weeks then it's mostly out your system and that probably explains why your body has had a freak out.

I was the same.

Think your man may need to read up on how pill works (and human body) as we don't reset lol.

(Gotta love hubbies)

PickAChew · 14/02/2018 19:56

If he hates it that much, is he happy to wear condoms?

Original poster
fridayrain · 14/02/2018 20:01

Thanks for the replies. Yes he has said he's happy to wear a condom so no issues there. I can slightly see the point he's trying to make but it pisses me off when he starts telling me how my body should be working.

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AnyFucker · 14/02/2018 20:05

Tell him to bog off with his mansplaining

Unless he's a gynaecologist ?

Original poster
fridayrain · 14/02/2018 20:06

Not a gynaecologist but an excellent, highly skilled mansplainer.

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treeofhearts · 14/02/2018 20:08

Is he a doctor? Does he have periods? No to both? Then he can fuck off, until he has them every month, he doesn't get an opinion. has pms

LittleMe03 · 14/02/2018 20:12

Although his advice is not great, I do think he is possibly just wanting to help and cares about you. I think the replies are a little harsh towards him.

When I was on the injection contraceptive I was advised after a couple of years to give my body a break from it and use a different form of contraception for a couple of months.

dementedpixie · 14/02/2018 20:13

The advice is different for the injection as it can actually affect bone density so that would be a good reason to have a break from it

mindutopia · 14/02/2018 20:17

Personally, I am definitely a believer in having a bleed of some sort every month. I was on the pill for 18 years total (in late 30s now, except when I was ttc or pregnant) and I always had a monthly withdrawal bleed. I do think it was better for my body than letting it build up. I think it would have been weird to not shed the lining of my uterus for 6-12 years at a time. So I'm all in favour of that. I do think it's why I got pregnant so easily 3 times. But that's just my own theory.

But not your dh's body, not his opinion to have. There are some gynos who advise against taking pills back to back and there has been some research on it. I don't really know how conclusive the results were though. But ultimately, none of his damn business. Stopping and starting though like you have can screw your body up though, so the weird bleed you did have isn't surprising. Just make sure you aren't pregnant. I assume you weren't having sex while you had the flu, so probably not a concern!

dementedpixie · 14/02/2018 20:21

The mini pill is designed to be taken every day with no break unlike the combined pill which has a 7 day break. Some women bleed with the mini pill and some don't.

Dozer · 14/02/2018 20:25

None of his business!

TheButterflyOfTheStorms · 14/02/2018 20:30

There are some gynos who advise against taking pills back to back and there has been some research on it.

My female doctor friend laughed about this. Her words, "some men just want women to bleed".

It'll be a cold day in hell when DH thinks he gets a say when and how I put hormones in my body. Luckily mine never would.

Hidingtonothing · 14/02/2018 20:38

The very reason you don't bleed on the mini pill (if you're lucky anyway Smile) is because it prevents the bodily process which makes periods necessary, so there's nothing to 'clear out'. Hope DH has good points to outweigh the mansplaining OP Grin

MrsBertBibby · 14/02/2018 20:46

I haven't had a bleed in 10 years, thanks to lovely lovely cerazette.

There's no "build up" FFS!

LittleMe03 · 14/02/2018 20:49

I didn't think from OP's post that her DH was trying to tell her how to control her body Confused

IMO it sounded as thou he was just concerned and trying to advise her. I know it wasn't great advise but I didn't get the impression he was trying to control what OP does in any way

Angelf1sh · 14/02/2018 21:02

Yeah that’s really not how it works. Hmm

JustAnIdiot · 14/02/2018 21:07

Faffing about with your pill is much more likely to see you pregnant than taking it as recommended.

It doesn't "build up" FFS - it just doesn't happen because of the
hormones.

He does know you swallow the pills, rather than shoving them up your flue as a cork, I assume...

CryptoFascist · 14/02/2018 21:12

The pill was designed to give women a monthly bleed as doctors believed it would feel abnormal to a woman to not have periods. There’s no medical benefit to a bleed.
broadly.vice.com/en_us/article/yw3p4g/why-you-have-your-period-on-birth-control-withdrawal-bleeding

SadSongsAndWaltzes · 14/02/2018 21:17

Are you sure you're not pregnant op?

Backenette · 14/02/2018 21:17

Scientist here!

No, you do not ‘need to bleed.’ The early pills wereeesigned with a withdrawal bleed because (male) doctors thought women would be alarmed if they didn’t.

There’s actually a suspected health benefit to not bleeding - suppression of the menstrual cycle would have been very normal in our hunter gatherer ancestors, who would have birthed a child and fed them for a few years, suppressing menses and providing a degree of contraception (not 100%!)

So a period a month for so many years isn’t sonething the bulk of women would have done and its thought the constant hormonal cycling is a small but significant contributor to some cancers.

And don’t stop taking your pill! It’ll make no difference to recovering from the flu but you have no contraception in place!

Aquamarine1029 · 14/02/2018 21:25

"Shut up, you idiot. You have no fucking idea what you're talking about."

Repeat as necessary.

saltandvinegarcrisps1 · 14/02/2018 21:30

Not sure about "mini pill" but times have changed with the pill- instead of 3 weeks on one week off, they now do 9 weeks on, one off. Apparently this reduces the chances of breakthrough bleeding. It's the uterine lining builds up and has to shed eventually, - we can't compare ourselves to cavemen who had no contraception, no hormones in food, no rivers polluted with hormones yadda yadda. His explanation sounds thoughtful but not well thought out, if that makes sense?

TheButterflyOfTheStorms · 14/02/2018 22:03

IMO it sounded as thou he was just concerned and trying to advise her.

Having neither a medical degree nor a uterus, why on earth was he advising her? I don't tell DH how to deal with his testicles!

LittleMe03 · 14/02/2018 22:22

@TheButterflyOfTheStorms

As I said... IMO