I have been doing OD on and off for about 18 months after the breakdown of my marriage. Am pretty thick-skinned about it and have not taken it too seriously and haven't met anyone who has been a serious contender yet -- a couple of 2-4 month things which could have gone somewhere but didn't, a few other dates. All good, not so clean fun and no-one has been hurt.
I think it has toughened me up a bit which I don't think is a bad thing and made my bullshitometer very over-sensitive and I'm now pretty much on a one-strike-and-you're-out approach with it.
Something happened over the weekend which has made me wonder whether I'm over-fussy or if I've got the balance right: got chatting to a nice-sounding, nice-looking bloke who appears solvent and sane. So far so good. He sent me a couple of slightly sleazy-sounding "what are you wearing?" messages last week. Bear in mind I haven't met him yet. I was a bit hmmm but gave him the benefit of the doubt.
Then again over the weekend he has been messaging asking me what I would wear on our first date, what kind of heels etc. I kind of dodged this a bit and when he pushed it just sent a rather curt message saying I wasn't up for providing free titillation to someone who I hadn't met. Needless to say he has evaporated, which is fine with me.
Am I being a really bad sport? Or is it bad form to be sending borderline pervy messages to someone before you've been on a first date? I worry that I've become too cynical sometimes but I am really turned off by the idea that I would be providing digital wank fodder to someone I have never clapped eyes upon... But maybe I need to lighten up :)
Curious to know what others think...