Husband keeps waking me up in the morning

[Anya2012]

My husband has to get to work at 7.30am and he therefore is usually up before me for at least an hour, on some days he goes to the gym ( which is great) but wakes up at 5.30am. I’m currently 15 weeks pregnant and I’ve been really tired most of this pregnancy ( it’s my first) so we both go to bed about 10 pm, but he wakes earlier to leave. Now last two weeks I’ve been getting really horrific migraines and I can’t really take very much.
I think not having enough sleep( I wake up to pee and by his snoring several times per night ) and now every morning he wakes up showers comes back opening and closing doors, sprays deodrant( which is the worst bc of my headache problem and my heightened sense of smell) and then I’m wide awake an hour before I need to get up. But now he’s getting up early at the weekends too so Saturday and Sunday I’m awake at 6.30 am . Is this happening to anyone else ?

My dp did this. He would sit on the bed to put his socks on, spray his deordant etc.
The only way they understand, is to do it back to them.
Let him go to bed and stay up. Or wait til he his asleep and tgen get out of bed to go to the toilet. Switch the light on, sit down on the bed to put on socks or take off socks, bang into the bed as you walk past, etc.
Keep doing it, until the penny drops.
If he keeps going on about it, copy him. Tell him you have apologised and why won't he let it drop. Get angry too.

I am wondering why on earth you are having a baby with this man as he sounds like a selfish dick and it's only going to get harder :( I'm worrried for you!

He does realise that you're only like this because the two of you are having a baby?

You're the one carrying it, and suffering the (worthwhile in the end) consequences. What is he doing, exactly? Does he think he'll be able to carry on the same way when the baby's here?

Best he starts practising consideration now.

Send him to sleep and dress and spray deodorant (isn't that what abathroom's for?) somewhere else.

He’s being inconsiderate whether you’re pregnant or not. If dh or I have to get up earlier than 600 for work we get dressed/sorted in the other room. Also try to avoid kids waking up early so we creep around the house being considerate to others.

it's not just you Jelliebelly most normal nice people do their best to considerate to others, including, if not especially, their partners. I think you really need to lay down serious boundaries here OP for your sake and also for the model your children are going to learn.

I would make him build a shed and sleep out there so he can be less of an inconsiderate bag of horror.

Waking up at 6.30am is hardly early, some people are leaving for work at that time!

I think it’s your body’s way of preparing you for no sleep for the next 5 years!
Wait until the baby comes and is teething, you will not sleep for 24 hours!

My DS when up through the night says he doesn't flush the toilet because he doesn't want to wake anyone.
He's 5.
Your husband is selfish and being spiteful because you've called him out on it. Let him sleep in the lounge and enjoy the bed to yourself for now. If not, invest in some good earplugs and an eye mask. Or failing that a new husband who understands compromise and compassion

Waking up at 6.30am is hardly early, some people are leaving for work at that time!

My husband did, and he was so quiet I never knew he's gone.

The OP isn't well and her husband is a selfish arse.

Op get a support network in place that will help you with this baby. I'm going to be really blunt here, youve made a poor choice in coparent. He is going to make life harder, not easier for you

Waking up at 6.30am is hardly early, some people are leaving for work at that time!

It’s not for me as I’m a morning person, it is for my DH as a night owl and I respect that.

Are you the OP’s DH 🙄

Welldone
I think it’s your body’s way of preparing you for no sleep for the next 5 years!
Wait until the baby comes and is teething, you will not sleep for 24 hours!

What a ridiculous thing to say. She should be getting as much sleep now as she can. This is not competitive tiredness. She has plenty of time ahead to be tired!