Contact between 1st and 2nd date?

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I had a date went well, he contact me within 30 mins of date saying "thanks for lovely evening, next time I would like to take you to dinner"

I responded that I enjoyed it etc and dinner sounded great, we carried on messaging for bit then said goodnight.

Since then I haven't heard anything (2 days now)

Unsure what to read into this, what is usual contact between 1st and 2nd date?

From your own experiences do you think this is odd/red flag?

I think the fact he messaged you so quickly isn’t a red flag, maybe he scared himself with his keenness?

So do you think maybe it was just politeness after the date and now just doing the phasing out with no contact?

Contact him? Propose a date for dinner?

Don’t overthink things

I would give him another day or two then message him. He messaged you straight after the date to me that's a good sign and shows he is quite keen. I suspect after that he doesn't want to play it too keen so is leaving it a few days.

That's reassuring, I'm not that experienced with dating and in the past have either had the constant texters or the ones that just totally ghost after 1st date

First time I have had the follow up message suggesting 2nd date then silent for a few days

I would take it that he is not interested sorry. He would be all excited arranging to see you again if he was.

I have agreed to another date at first then changed my mind after a day or two.

Don’t think it’s a red flag. I would send him one more casual, friendly text and wait for him to reply.

I did think to text maybe he's sat there wondering why I haven't texted, guess the uncertainty can work both ways!

Just text him and say hey how are you? When's that dinner happening? If he doesn't reply you will know.

I agree, you should text him and just ask when he would like to go for dinner.

How often did yous message before meeting?

Who sent the last text?

Ok he messaged first on the Sunday evening but I didn't pick up the message until Monday morning, replied and messaged through the day and arranged date for Wednesday

Heard nothing Tuesday and we went on date as planned Wednesday evening!

After date he texted when he got home, suggested dinner next time and we exchanged few messages then just said good night

Nothing since

I’d text to arrange the next date & that would be it

I'm not good with uncertainty and would rather just know so maybe it's better I do text, least then I will get my answer

Just undecided if I should do now or just give it 24 more hours in case he's following the 3 day rule

Just message him! Rules are silly and game playing isn’t going to make a great relationship.

Do it now, if you go on another date it won’t matter if it is today or tomorrow that you text.

Ok what do I text I really don't want to just ask for second date would rather just establish contact again first

What 3 day rule?! He could have cooled or he could be keen but unsure of your enthusiasm so either way, text him and find out.

“Hi, hows your week gone? What are you up to this weekend?”

Normally I would say take the bull by the horns and message but actually on this occasion I say, if he doesn't text to arrange the next date he's not bothered. In my experience, when a man meets you and likes you, he won't muck about.

Hi OP
He could be thinking just the same,worrying about seeming too keen
Send a brief,light hearted text ."Hi how's your week been?"something like that.
Good luck

Definitely text him!

This is pretty common behaviour, there's an outside chance you'll see him again, but probably not. They enjoy the date, do a bit of future faking then disappear. I can only guess they're hoping a supermodel might suddenly fall for their charms, because no normally attractive woman is ever likely to be good enough.

Text him and he responded within 1 minute, seemed pretty pleased to hear from me and messaging back and forth now... so guess we will see shortly