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Cant get my ex to talk to me

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Icepink39 · 07/02/2018 21:58

Hi i got dumped by tx last night i have txed my ex once but he hasnt replied i have some of his stuff at my house but dont know what to do with it x

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DropItLikeASquat · 08/02/2018 07:54

Hey Ice, Hope you are alright, you take your time hun. Its your body and your decision at the end of the day. Of course he is the babies father and may/may not want to be there for you but ultimately you are only one who can decide what to do.

Karigan1 · 08/02/2018 07:58

Hey, didn’t want to just scroll and run. No advice apart from take your time to think things through yourself. Have you got someone you can chat to?

What ever you decide you will be ok. Be strong.

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Icepink39 · 08/02/2018 08:04

My mates are not the ones to talk to i am gonna think what i wanna do at the end of the day its my body and my choice may sound selfish tho

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Cabininthewoods69 · 08/02/2018 08:11

Don't tell him yet. You will have to tell him no matter your choice on what you do. If he's done this now remember he could do this again. So think carefully about if you would even want to get back together. Deep breathe and do not contact him .

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Icepink39 · 08/02/2018 08:14

Im not gonna tell him yet but your right i do have to tell him what ever i decide to do but i know i dont wanna get back to together not after this

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horrayforharoldlloyd · 08/02/2018 08:52

I dont think you DO have to tell him whatever you decide. If you decide that a termination is best for you and your family then that is your business. You don't have to tell him.

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Icepink39 · 08/02/2018 09:09

I dont know what i wanna do

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DropItLikeASquat · 08/02/2018 10:42

If it helps at all, I was in a similar situation a couple of years ago, I kept the baby. I have the most amazing little boy who is kind, loving and brings me so much joy. I don't regret keeping him for one min. His dad wants nothing to do with him and we are just getting on with our lives. I have 8 kids, if I can do it then you def can. Im not sure if you can PM on here but I'm happy to talk if you need to :-)

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Icepink39 · 08/02/2018 10:50

I wanna keep the baby ive been thinking about it i couldnt terminated

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Dancingfairy · 08/02/2018 11:33

Good luck op. I am a single parent to 4 aswell and it's hard but wouldn't change it for the world. How old are your others?

DropItLikeASquat · 08/02/2018 12:11

thats so True Dancingfairy, do not find though that as exhausting as it can sometimes be, its all worth it when they smile, or do something amazing, or justhugg you and say I love u mom. Its those moments that keep me going.

Dancingfairy · 08/02/2018 12:39

They do bring so much joy. I had my youngest (9 months) just after breaking up with ex so same circumstance (he's decided not to be involved) and like I said wouldn't change her for the world.

Begrateful · 08/02/2018 13:01

Good luck in your journey OP. Having the baby will bring a lot of joy in your heart and you'll find you're stronger than you thought.

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Icepink39 · 08/02/2018 14:22

My other three are 14 10 and 8

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Cabininthewoods69 · 08/02/2018 16:59

Your kids are lucky to have such a strong mother as much as you are lucky to have your children

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Icepink39 · 08/02/2018 17:14

I wouldnt change my kids for the world x

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DropItLikeASquat · 08/02/2018 17:35

me neither, like I said, I don't regret for one min that I kept my little boy.

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Icepink39 · 08/02/2018 17:57

I wont regret keeping this baby x

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DropItLikeASquat · 08/02/2018 18:34

Good for you IcePink! See you are stronger than yesterday already. xx

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Icepink39 · 08/02/2018 18:43

I cant change whats happend so go get on with it look after my kids and myself xx

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