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After nasty divorce... what to do with your rings?

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user1467480231 · 31/01/2018 10:06

Sadly, I didn't get the opportunity to shove my rings down my exes throat (LOL! ;) ) and now have a beautiful engagement ring collecting dust.

What have you all done with yours?

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Beentherelefthimgotthetshirt · 31/01/2018 20:54

I remodelled mine into a dress ring to wear on my right hand. I used the centre stone from the original ring and added others to it. This had a cost to it but it was worth it as my new ring doesn't look like an engagement ring and I chose a lovely engagement ring even if I was a bit off with the choice of man. One out of two ain't bad! I have two stones left which will be earrings when I get myself in gear one day,

BG2015 · 31/01/2018 20:58

Mine are still in my bedside drawer - I’ve been divorced since 2008. I just can’t seem to part with them.

I got a price for them and it was peanuts. I miss wearing a ring on that hand.

beingsunny · 31/01/2018 21:04

I would sell them and spend the whole lot on lottery tickets

Feelingfree · 31/01/2018 22:32

My wedding ring I took on holiday with me and threw it in the Norwegian Sea - very satisfying.

Another ring he bought I had remodeled into a pendant.

Giraffey1 · 31/01/2018 22:47

I’ve not really thought about this until seeing the thread.... and now I’m mulling over what I will do with mine, I’m not giving them back to him. And the engagement ring was second-hand when I got it! We’d looked in some jewellers so I could tell him the style I liked, and then he said he’d choose.one when 8 wasn’t there. The rising he gave me not only wasn’t new, it was exactly the style / design I’d said I didn’t like. Perhaps 5at was an omen for our marriage ...

Giraffey1 · 31/01/2018 22:48

Ring, not rising!!!!

Dontsayyouloveme · 01/02/2018 08:22

Sold it and got botox!

Goldilocks3Bears · 01/02/2018 09:24

@dontsayyouloveme - I think you may be my spirit animal

Seems apt to sell his shitty rings and use the money to pay for the "11" frown between my eyebrows that the divorce made ten times worse.

lilybetsy · 01/02/2018 09:36

sold my wedding ring - cost £1800 (was platinum and diamond) sold for about £300 at hatton garden - went out for a slap up lunch on the proceeds ...

I wanted it gone tbh ...

StrongerThanIThought76 · 01/02/2018 10:03

I had mine remade into another ring - redesigned to signify something personal to me, changed to white gold, added another stone and borrowed a couple from an old broken ring.

After years of it sitting in a drawer I now wear it every day... never linked it to the fact I wear it on my middle finger!!

StrongerThanIThought76 · 01/02/2018 10:04

Oh, and I lost my wedding ring out of my pocket in a changing room after I'd taken it to get valued to sell on. Twas meant to be!

Goldilocks3Bears · 01/02/2018 10:25

Question for the ring recycling girls - roughly how much did you pay to have your ring(s) remodelled into something new?

Drainedandconfused · 01/02/2018 10:30

My divorce was very amicable and I’ve kept my rings, they will go to my daughter when I die. My ex and I broke up last November, I threw every piece of jewellery he gave me into the sea including a nice fat diamond engagement ring. I didn’t want money for them, I just wanted rid.

LemonShark · 01/02/2018 12:13

"I threw every piece of jewellery he gave me into the sea including a nice fat diamond engagement ring. I didn’t want money for them, I just wanted rid."

Wow... I genuinely hope one day in my life I have so much money I can afford to do something like this! Did you ever think about selling and donating the money to charity?

Goldilocks3Bears · 01/02/2018 13:55

@LemonShark

Without knowing the precise reasons why @drainedandconfused split up, I'm guessing that the strength of reaction matches the nature of the split up so it is not for other people to judge. I'm sure Oxfam was the last thing on her mind at the time. I'm just glad she didn't throw herself in the sea.....

purplelass · 01/02/2018 13:58

Sold mine for beer tokens

DarkNightDelight · 01/02/2018 14:19

Sold it and spent the money on something nice :-)

ChaosNeverRains · 01/02/2018 14:37

Wow... I genuinely hope one day in my life I have so much money I can afford to do something like this! Did you ever think about selling and donating the money to charity? presumably if the OP didn’t buy the jewellery in the first place she didn’t have to “afford” to throw it away.

I actually think it takes a lot more courage to throw lovely jewellery away than it does to take it to the local re-seller. Because even if one hated the man presumably one loved the jewellery and would have continued to do so in different circs, so to throw it into the sea shows the power of feeling towards the giver surely?

I wouldn’t have given charity a second thought either. Most of them waste their money to the extent they might as well be pouring it down the drain as it is. although it gives me an idea as to whether or not someone could set up a charity jewellery shop to give the proceeds of any donated jewellery to abused women or similar.....

Want2beme · 01/02/2018 14:50

I wear my engagement ring on my right hand now and am planning to have it restyled, eventually or I'll sell it. I won't leave it at home in a drawer because I was burgled a couple of years ago and all of my jewellery was stolen. So, now I wear the small amount of jewellery I have, all the time.

WeeMadArthur · 01/02/2018 14:57

I used mine to pay for my new wedding rings! I must have got lucky taking it back to the place I originally got it from because they gave me almost 80% of the price I paid originally (yes I paid for my first engagement ring - he really saw me coming)

Aria2015 · 01/02/2018 15:05

Either sell it or have it remade into jewellery you like. Like a diamond necklace. My mother had her wedding ring cut in half and made into half hoop earrings!

Lobsterquadrille2 · 01/02/2018 16:07

First ring I got an ok amount at an auction. Second ring came from the Lanes in Brighton and cost about £3k (I paid half) and I've been told I'd get about £700. I like it so have kept it but don't wear it.

WindowWiper · 01/02/2018 16:39

@Goldilocks3Bears. '...but I dont think I want any reminders that he ever put his willy in me and I let him.'

Brakebackcyclebot · 01/02/2018 16:43

I sold the gold. Keep the stone, and have it made into something else.

LittleCandle · 01/02/2018 16:44

XH had given me 2 eternity rings he'd forgotten about the first one and I should have paid more attention and I gave one each to the kids and told them to do what they wanted with them. If they sold them, fine, whatever. I have no idea what they did do. I sold my engagement and wedding rings. I loved the engagement ring, but I couldn't bear to keep it. I needed the money as well. I also sold my mother's wedding ring at the same time. My DP were divorced, so it wasn't sentimental in that respect and as I say, I needed the money.

When my divorce finally came through, I bought myself a ring for my wedding finger. It is clearly not an engagement or wedding ring, but it does tell guys not to try it on with me.

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