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Partner has no sense of humour

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orient81 · 27/04/2007 16:14

My partner comes to stay with me on a weekend and brings a brown leather bag. My son has the same sense of humour as I do and finds it hilarious to pretend to be obsessed with inanimate objects. So he has a fixation with this bag and calls it the "poo bag" as its brown, sometimes the "diarrhea bag" (I call it the shit bag) and he makes out it has special powers etc...its so funny to watch him kicking off about this bag so I laugh along and I suppose I encourage it. Anyway DP thinks its stupid and things its stupid for me to encourage it. Last weekend my son 'stole' the bag and put it in the bath (no water) which I found really funny, sometimes he hides it in his room, sometimes he empties it out in my room and throws the clothes all over and somethings he spills things on it and rushes to take a photograph. DP has said that he's getting sick of the joke, doesnt find it funny and wants us to stop.

Thing is my son has just got into scrapbooking and wants to do a 'funny' page all about the poo bag which means I'll need to take a few photos. DP got cross when I told him and said I'm being pathetic and he's sick to death of it all and if I carry on he'll get rid of it I think he's over-reacting, its just a bit of fun. Am I being daft and should I stop or is he being grumpy?

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themildmanneredjanitor · 27/04/2007 16:15

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hoolagirl · 27/04/2007 16:15

Sounds like your 'joke' is wearing a bit thin tbh.

Ooopsydaisy · 27/04/2007 16:16

Hillarious and surreal! I loooooove it!

The Poo bag is gonna make me smile all afternoon.

Thanks, xxx

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suzywong · 27/04/2007 16:16

well I don't find the joke immediately funny but then I guess it's one of those where you have to be there
I think it is acase of your dp wishing to have his personal effects treated with respect and courtesy

AngharadGoldenhand · 27/04/2007 16:16

Yes, you're being daft.

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orient81 · 27/04/2007 16:17

My son is 8. Thing is DP has never laughed along, I feel my ex wouldve done but I dont wish to compare them but I dont want to be stuck with a grumpy guts, he doesnt seem to find anything funny unless its said by Jeremy Clarkson

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expatinscotland · 27/04/2007 16:17

K, I'm starting to think there's a 14-year-old having fun on the computer today . . .

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FiveFingeredFiend · 27/04/2007 16:18

What suzy says. She is always eminantly sensible

snowleopard · 27/04/2007 16:18

FWIW I would probably find your son's antics hilarious... but it is your DP's bag. Making jokes isn't so bad but emptying it out is going a bit far - and he certainly shouldn't damage anything.

Also your DP doesn't exactly sound as if he's on the same wavelength as you and your son - if he doesn't like it you should stop, but is he the right man for you?

suzywong · 27/04/2007 16:19

FFF
I know you quite well dont' I? ???

NineUnlikelyTales · 27/04/2007 16:19

Gordon bennett.

If someone doesn't find a 'joke' funny, it is rude and insensitive to carry on abusing their possessions. I don't think it teaches your son much respect for other people or their belongings to encourage him in this.

Does your DS really like your partner?

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ShinyHappyPeopleHoldingHands · 27/04/2007 16:20

I think you and your son sound a bit mad. And I thought I was lacking in sanity.

Jokes cease to be funny when they are stressing someone out, I always find.

collision · 27/04/2007 16:20

it would wind me up too.

how would you feel if a child emptied your things everywhere? what if there were personal things in it that you didnt want everyone to see.

I think you should stop.

serenity · 27/04/2007 16:20

I'd be pretty p'd off if I was your partner. Whatever humour there was in the situation sounds like it's been done to death. I think you're lucky your DP is only threatening to get rid of the bag and not you tbh! I think he's pretty justified being grumpy tbh, you and your DS are acting like bullies.

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orient81 · 27/04/2007 16:20

expatinscotland no I'm not 14 thanks, looks like you and my DP would get along

My son is always like this, I find it hilarious, even when he does it to my stuff. I just get the impression that DP doesnt like him much, he always seems to role his eyes whenever he comes in the room.

Maybe the emptying was a bit OTT but the rest of it I think is funny.

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expatinscotland · 27/04/2007 16:22

No, I don't think we'd get along, orient, because I'd dump you PDQ.

Trip trap.

Tinker · 27/04/2007 16:23

All sounds a but tedious. Can forgive your son as 8-year olds can often have a tedious sense of humour but think you should lay off encouraging him

GabrielleSolis · 27/04/2007 16:27

Do you think you could have some kind of obsessive disorder? I'd advise you see your GP

jalopy · 27/04/2007 17:34
Hmm
collision · 27/04/2007 18:01

Is your DP always like this or just not finding the poobag funny?

Do they get on otherwise?

Aloha · 27/04/2007 18:10

Oh not this troll again.

Anniegetyourgun · 27/04/2007 18:34

Well the OP needs to grow up one way or the other, either silly pointless trolls or even sillier "sense of humour" (personally I'd threaten the kid with physical violence if he mucked about with my stuff).

It's not funny. The bag thing is not funny and the post is not funny. And how that child, if indeed he exists, is going to grow up doesn't bear thinking about.